Enjoy Your Life: Change Your Point of View+More than One Way to Skin a Cat: Adventures in Creative Thinking

 "Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars."- Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts 

If you’ve placed second in a writing contest, will you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or will you be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again? 

In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you may decide to take the optimist’s route and take a challenging and fulfilling life.

So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now?

Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational, and political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from trauma.

On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teen-ager’s disorder’ as well.

Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back up why it really pays to be an optimist:

Optimists expect the best

The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events, which will last a long time and undermine everything they do, are their own fault. 

The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune---it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case. 

Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.' In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation, they perceive it is a challenge and try harder.

They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”

Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies, and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles. 

People respond positively to optimists

Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with. 

Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic, and hysteria are treated unfavorably. 

In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial, and sought for advice. 

When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher 

Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.

They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream.

Optimists are healthier and live longer

Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease.

Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts. 

So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.

Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors?  

Why not be resilient? 

Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but don’t just stay there.

 Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-colored glasses and see life in the bright side?

More than One Way to Skin a Cat: Adventures in Creative Thinking

How many times have you caught yourself saying that there could be no other solution to a problem – and that that problem leads to a dead-end? 

How many times have you felt stumped knowing that the problem laying before you is one you cannot solve. No leads.  No options.  

No solutions.  

Did it feel like you had exhausted all possible options and yet are still before the mountain – large, unconquerable, and impregnable? 

When encountering such enormous problems, you may feel like you're hammering against a steel mountain.

 The pressure of having to solve such a problem may be overwhelming.

But rejoice! There might be some hope yet!

With some creative problem-solving techniques you may be able to look at your problem in a different light. And that light might just be the end of the tunnel that leads to possible solutions.

First of all, in the light of creative problem-solving, you must be open-minded to the fact that there may be more than just one solution to the problem. And, you must be open to the fact that there may be solutions to problems you thought were unsolvable.

Now, with this optimistic mindset, we can try to be a little bit more creative in solving our problems.

Number one; maybe the reason we cannot solve our problems is that we have not really taken a hard look at what the problem is.

 Here, trying to understanding the problem and having a concrete understanding of its workings is integral to solving the problem. If you know how it works, what the problem is, then you have a better foundation towards solving the problem.

Not trying to make the simple statement of what the problem is.

 Try to identify the participating entities and what their relationships with one another are. Take note of the things you stand to gain any stand to lose from the current problem. Now you have a simple statement of what the problem is.

Number two; try to take note of all of the constraints and assumptions you have the words of problem. Sometimes it is these assumptions that obstruct our view of possible solutions.

 You have to identify which assumptions are valid, in which assumptions need to be addressed.

Number three; try to solve the problem by parts. Solve it going from general view towards the more detailed parts of the problem.

 This is called the top-down approach. Write down the question, and then come up with a one-sentence solution to that from them.

 The solution should be a general statement of what will solve the problem. From here you can develop the solution further, and increase its complexity little by little.

Number four; although it helps to have critical thinking aboard as you solve a problem, you must also keep a creative, analytical voice at the back of your head. 

When someone comes up with a prospective solution, tried to think about how you could make that solution work. 

Try to be creative.

 At the same time, look for chinks in the armor of that solution.

Number five; it pays to remember that there may be more than just one solution being developed at one time. Try to keep track of all the solutions and their developments. 

Remember, there may be more than just one solution to the problem.

Number six; remember that old adage," two heads are better than one." ☺🤗

That one is truer than it sounds. Always be open to new ideas. You can only benefit from listening to all the ideas each person has. This is especially true when the person you're talking to has had experience solving problems similar to yours.

You don't have to be a gung-ho, solo hero to solve the problem.

 If you can organize collective thought on the subject, it would be much better.

Number seven; be patient. As long as you persevere, there is always a chance that a solution will present itself. Remember that no one was able to create an invention the first time around.

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Energy Healing 101: Pranic, Tantric, and Reiki

 You have probably come across exotic-sounding terms such as “chakra”, “prana”, “aura”, and “tantra” in your course of reading books on spirituality, sex, and healing in the New Age literature section of the bookstore. 

But what’s the real scoop behind these exotic vocabularies?

Are All Energy Healings the Same?

Chakra or energy center is a term used in Pranic healing, an ancient Hindu system of energy healing. “Prana” means life energy. “Aura” is another terminology traced to Pranic healing. 

Aura is a non-physical body that consists of energy, which exists along with our physical body. The aura that covers our body is said to have seven layers pertaining to the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects of an individual as manifested by energy.

 Studying the color and thickness of auras give ideas on the state of health of individuals. Six colors are associated with aura and interpreted into six personalities. These colors are all present in an individual but one or two are more pronounced.

• Green – ambitious achiever
• Blue – spiritual peacemaker
• White – unconventional chameleon
• Red – activist 
• Orange – creative communicator
• Violet - psychic

Although Tantra is popularly associated with the peculiar practice of sex and spirituality, it is another method of energy healing. It comes from the word “tan” which means to spread or expand. The concept of connectedness is a recurring theme in Tantric writings on sex and spirituality. 

As a method of healing, spirituality, and sex figure prominently. It is presupposed that the union of man and woman can reach spiritual levels during orgasm, which removes the body and mind off collected impurities. These impurities being negative energies can in turn manifest as physical illnesses. 

Unlike Pranic and Tantric healings, which have Hindu origins, Reiki originated from Japan. It is relatively younger than Pranic and Tantric healings having been rediscovered in the early 1900s. 

Reiki stands for universal energy, an energy brought forth by a higher intelligence. Students of Reiki are taught how to tap this energy to heal physical, emotional, and mental illnesses.

Although Pranic, Tantra, and Reiki are all systems of energy healing, they differ in the type of energy tapped for healing: life energy, sexual energy, and universal energy respectively. 

The concepts of the connectedness of mind, body, and spirit; the connection of individuals to all living and nonliving things around them and to the universe; and how energy impacts physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being are some of the salient similarities of these three healing methods. 

Why Do People Turn to Energy Healing?

Pranic, Tantric, and Reiki are considered alternative methods of healing. In spite of the availability and relative accessibility of modern medicine, how come more and more people are being drawn to them? Here are some possible reasons:

· Energy healing worked where modern medicine failed.

For several reasons both explainable and unexplainable, modern medical treatment failed to heal ailments and conditions in several if not many persons. Research or data may not be able to support this statement. 

But for the families of the dying as well as for the dying patient, they would take the risk of using alternative methods ranging from herbals and organics, faith healers, witch doctors, and New Age healing techniques just to get well.

· People perceive modern medicine to be isolating. 

Medical treatments are oftentimes focused on the disease and its causative agent, which can make a patient feel isolated and treated like a mere host of the disease. 

Although recent developments in hospital practice are gradually promoting the holistic treatment of a patient, the perception still persists. Unlike in energy healing, since energy and spirituality are intimately linked, the patient feels that all aspects of his health are being attended to.

· Energy healing is non-obtrusive and natural thus it is safer.

Repeated surgical procedures are physically and emotionally traumatic for most patients. It is but a logical and attractive option for both patients and families to look for less stressful health interventions. 

·Faith is a good way of relieving stress.

Meditation is part and parcel of energy healing methods and this is an added come-on for highly stressed people. Moreover, sophisticated equipment is not required thus it becomes all the more convenient for students and future students of energy healing.

The battle between alternative healing and mainstream medicine continues as both present the benefits of their approach. But in the final analysis, what matters is the restoration of good health. 

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How to live healthier+Focus on your mental and emotional side to gain self improvement

 The main thing to a healthier you, is to eat the right exercise and visit your family doctor regularly. 

This is all part of a healthier you and if your healthier you will feel better about your self. 

One of the biggest problems we have today is that most people do not eat right. While the world is wising up, they still fall short of proper eating habits, since we are rushed by a face-paced world. 

What do I have to do to eat right?

Eating right is a hard thing to do for some of us and for others it is easier to do. Eating healthy is a big problem these days. 

For some of us it is hard to buy healthier food due to the fact it cost more to fix meals the right way. 

There are a lot of people that are just making it in the real world without having to buy a loaf of bread that cost $2.50 a loaf when they can get a loaf for $.50 so what do they do get the $.50 loaf and knowing that its bad for them but that’s all they can afford. So eating right can be hard for you too. We have options.

 You can grow your own home garden; bake your own bread for a fraction of the cost and so on. 

What are some of the things I can eat?

Some of the things you can eat right are vegetables, dairy products, high-protein dishes and so on. You need a certain amount of fat, carbs, etc, which helps to keep you healthy.  

You can get a list from your family doctor or you can go to the library to get information on the basic four food groups. If you cannot afford to eat right then maybe you should not eat as much. In addition, do some excising; excising is always good for you. 

Exercise will increase your health, even if you cannot afford the four basic groups of nutritious foods. In addition, you have many services available to you, which can offer you food supplies.  

How do I learn how to eat right?

If you want to learn how eat right you can read about it in books from the local library or maybe you will want to talk to your doctor. 

Your doctor might be able to tell you how to go about doing this and the right way for your body. You cannot just jump in and change everything about you overnight. You have to take the time to start and to learn. 

For some of us that have been eating wrong all of our life, this would be hard to do overnight. Then again, others may not have any problems with it. You want to consider your position and move forward. 

Will I feel better if I eat right?

You will feel a lot better if you eat right. Eating right has a lot to do with how we feel. If we lack nutrients, it can make one feel depressed, ill, etc. 

Since we get vitamins from our foods, you may want to include natural regimens of vitamins in your daily schedule also. 

The right vitamins we need every day to make us feel good about our self. We get many vitamins from what we eat. Vitamins are what make us feel like a person. 

Focus on your mental and emotional side to gain self-improvement

Not everyone believes this but the emotional and mental aspects of a person, when combined, leads to better self-improvement. 

Emotions love to dominate our actions and reactions, even though we do not want it to happen sometimes. The society often see emotions as a sign of weakness, so people are used to putting them aside and focusing on the rational aspects more and more. 

No matter how strict and logical you may be, you will always feel. One way or another, someone or something will get through you.

Positive emotions are a lifelong goal for many of us concerned about emotional health and self-improvement.

 What is more important; the amount of money you made during your life or the times you laughed out of sheer joy? 

People tend to put their positive emotions behind their negative feelings.

 This is one of the biggest problems that people come across during their lives. 

There is no clear way to ignore a negative experience and try to replace it with a positive one. Life just does not work that way.

For example, when you were a child, if your goldfish dies, you would be heartbroken. Your parents will probably buy you another goldfish but the sorrow is still there. 

Things get even more complex when you become an adult. A fight with your spouse the night before will affect your entire day. 

You will go to work angry, tired, and your mind will wander.

 On the way home from work you will not notice the sun shining and you would not be tempted to stop at a roadside stand to pick up some fresh fruits and vegetables. 

All this because one negative thought has contaminated the way you perceive the reality around you.

At this moment you will realize finding a safe place to relax your mind will do wonders for your emotional and mental improvement.

That place is relatively easy to find. It can be an actual place or an imaginary location. The best idea is to totally lose yourself in it. 

Let us say you have a problem with your mind and it just would not go away. Go bowling. 

Do not know how? Just give it a shot. 

Get caught up in the game. Your mind will drift away from the negative thoughts that dominated your last hours or days and start processing a whole new kind of information.

A safe haven can take many forms.

 It can be a song, a movie, even a person or animal. The main thing is to allow yourself to get completely involved with this new activity. 

You might still get flashes of the problem every now and then. Ignore it and get even more absorbed in what you are doing.

When the bowling game, the song, or the movie ends you will abruptly return to reality. You will probably want to retreat back to a safe place. Do not do it. 

The safe place exists only as a helping hand, not as a solution to your life's problems, may it be small or big. It serves only as an escape route. 

You will return from your safe zone with an increased energy level. You will feel better about yourself and gain more confidence. You will see that any issue can be resolved. 

This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can increase your emotional and mental health. Try to do this often and you are on your way to better self-improvement. 

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Discovering Values that Improve your Personal Life+Impossible is Just a Word

 Values make us as a person and define how we invest our time, energy and money. When our values are high, we can reach the limits of improving our personal life. Throughout our life, we decide what we want to do with our time. Time is essential, since time runs out quick. For this reasons you, want to invest time, spending your time wisely. Spending time wisely includes activities, entertainment, work, quality time and so on. 

The average person spends most of their day working. At the end of the day they return home to spend time watching television, or engaging in activities with the family. Unfortunately, family is a thing of the past. If you want to improve your personal life, you are going to have to put family first. If you have wife and kids, or husband and kids, you will need to learn how to invest time with the family. Unfortunately, you have five or six hours after a day of work to do this. You also want time for self. 

To achieve a time frame that works for everyone try considering discovering new interests. When you discover new ideas, it will help you open the doors to success. Your directions in life are based on new ideas. For instance, if you come home after work most times without spending time with the family, try practicing eating at the dinner table each night with your family. Do not allow room for excuses. As you feast together, take time to ask how each person’s day went. This has proven to enhance relationships. When you enhance relationship, you are also building a new bridge to personal improvement. 

One of the biggest mistakes some people make is hanging out with poor influences. If you hang out with poor influences, you are wasting time. Your values are low. You will need to build your values to improve your personal life by changing company. You want to hang around with positive influences. Let me draw you a picture. 

If you hang around at bars with your friends, you are wasting time. In time, you will face court costs, fines, and perhaps jail, especially if you visit the bars and drive home after drinking. In time, you will learn new bad habits. Each bad habit you learn takes over your life, which only keeps you down. 

Finding new positive influences is a key to success.

 Anyone who thinks positively will rub off on you, helping you to develop good habits. When you find friends that care about you, you will have friends that do not allow you to drink and drive. 

You will have friends that care about your future. 

To make new friends you have to learn communication skills. Don’t be afraid to smile and say hi. There is nothing wrong with being friendly. 

One has to use good judgment, however, since this world is filled with bad characters that have harmful intents. In addition, many people today fear friendliness. 

When you learn to communicate, however, you are building blocks that lead you to a happier future. Failure to communicate is one of the leading reasons why businesses fail, relationships falter, children kill, and so on. 

Communication comes in many forms. 

Sometimes when you sit and listen as well as pay attention to gestures or body language you learn best. Observation is the ultimate key that helps you to gain successfully and learn to develop skills that lead you to improve your personal life. 

You have many options in the world. Take those options, use them to your advantage and you are on the road to improving your personal life.

 Impossible is Just a Word

Everyone, at some point of his or her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? 

Who hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen?

 And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic.

This is a sad turn of events in our life. Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self-actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing.

But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.

The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can't do this. It's too hard. It's too impossible. No one can do this.

However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.

Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee.

 Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does.

On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming of totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them.

 The result?

 Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations. 

If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible.

 If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.

Try this exercise.

 Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life. 

Under one header, list down things ‘you know you can do’. Under another header, write the things you might be able to do.’ 

And under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’

Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. 

Check them when you are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’

As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’

As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible to become easier to accomplish. 

And the impossible begin to seem possible after all.

You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high and start working towards that goal little by little. 

However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic. 

Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned.

On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.

Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one.

Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be.

So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.

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How to Find The Road to Intuition+How to discover your intentions

 Have you had that experience when all of a sudden you just had this huge hunch that something is about to happen, and to your surprise, that intuition was eventually translated to reality? 

When you feel strongly about something without a logical basis to it, that's called intuition. It comes in three impressions: clairvoyance or "the third eye", sensing clearly, and feeling through listening. 

Clairvoyance is when your eye goes beyond what it can see. This is when you know what is happening somewhere.

Sensing clearly is basically what we refer to as "hunch" or "gut feel." This is the time when you are overwhelmed with a feeling and you can't explain it and all you can say is "I just know."

On the other hand, feeling through listening or clairaudience is being able to "listen" between the lines. Intuition also happens at times when a certain sound, whatever it is - be it a car's honk or a bird's twitting - ushers in an intense feeling.

They say only a number of people are gifted with intuition. 

Astrologers even insist that people born under the Scorpio or Pisces signs are naturally intuitive it almost borders on E.S.P. But studies have been sprouting left and right that proclaim that anyone can develop intuition.

Why the need to develop intuition, you ask? 

Why not let your emotional and psychological state as it is? 

First and foremost, intuition promotes good communication. 

It makes you more sensitive to the people around you; it often keeps you from hurting those you love because you are intuitive enough to understand them. 

Intuition also makes you far more creative than ever. Intuition means releasing more creative juices for any means of expression.

Lastly, intuition has healing power.

 This healing power is not in the physical sense, but in delving deep into your soul to eradicate some negative energy buried in it.

With that being said, are you ready to develop your intuition? Here are some ways to unlock this gift:

1. Hypnosis

Oh yes, get yourself hypnotized. Hypnosis is not limited to watching a pendulum move back and forth. Perform self-hypnosis or you can avail of hypnotic programs that can strengthen your intuition.

2. Meditation

Meditating means finding peace in yourself. If your mind and heart are cluttered with too many baggages and hurt,  you wouldn't be able to quiet down that part of you that could eventually initiate intuition. There are so many ways to meditate: take a yoga class, or just simply practice some breathing that could bring you straight to Zen.

3. Think positive!

A worry-free, fear-free state could do so much to improve your intuitive ability. By staying positive, you attract good energy that would be able to easily recognize imminent feelings and events.

4.  Just let go.

What does this mean? 

If you are on the brink of making a huge decision, let go of all the inhibitions and head to a quiet place where you could find out where the letting go has brought you. Sometimes you just have to listen to the voice within you, and that voice wouldn't come out unless you let go.

5. Never expect.

After letting go of the inhibitions and all those things that stop you from thinking and feeling clear, never expect an answer right away. 

Never expect that the "hunch" would fall on your lap immediately. Give it a little time then you'd just get surprised that -- wham! -- now you have your answer.

6. Believe in your first impressions.

When you see someone for the first time and think that he is a bit too arrogant for your taste, chances are that impression actually holds true. Most of the time, first impressions are brought by intuition.

7. Stay happy!

See? 

All you need to be intuitive is to stay happy! Happiness attracts immense power and such power includes intuition. In tapping your intuition, your motivation must be happiness and contentment. Given that premise, intuition will fall to you easily. 

Intuition is helpful because sometimes it leads you to something that cannot be achieved otherwise. 

A lot of lives have been saved by intuition alone. Decisions are easier done if armed by this gift. Develop intuition now and reap benefits you have never imagined. 

How to discover your intentions

Good intentions are the ultimate choice of improving your life. If you have bad intentions, it is a sign you are filled with greed, envy, hate, and so on.

 You want all these negative influences out of your life. Intentions are powerful. Intentions tell others where our goals are heading.

 It is our purpose. 

Intentions are the motive that helps us to achieve our objectives. 

To learn your intentions you must put forth an effort. Sometimes you will feel grouchy, and grit your teeth, yet as you continue to learn you will see a light at the end of the tunnel.

 So what if some of your intentions are bad. 

Welcome to reality, humanity, and imperfection. Yet, you can change those bad intentions to good thoughts. 

The key to finding your intentions is to consider discovering. 

Acquire the determination to reach for the stars, learn about you, decide what you want, and move ahead. Take the action so that you can develop healthier thoughts, habits, behaviors, etc that guide you to success. 

The system of entry: 

It always helps a person to write down their intentions. 

When you enter your intentions on paper, it helps you to discover you. Many people do not like to write, however if you keep a journal you can look back later to see your growth stage.

 It only takes a few minutes daily to jot down your feelings, thoughts, ideas and so on. 

Accessing your interests and strengths within: 

To access your interests, first you have to sit down and consider what you want. Once you decide what you want, you will need to write a plan, set goals and take action. 

Move to get what you want. 

To access your strengths, test your abilities and skills. 

What can you do best? How can you use your skills and abilities to improve your personal life? 

Once you access your inner you, you can move to set your own standard of living. Do not live for others; rather learn to live for you. As you move ahead, explore your vocation paths. Do you see you in the future enjoying the job you love?

 Do you see you in the future working at the same company going nowhere? If you see yourself stuck, check your options to find a way to better your situation. You can start by identifying the jobs that peek your interest. 

Once you discover what you want to do, set up strategies to achieve your goals. Take action and move ahead. 

How it is done: 

Discover you and what options you have available. Pull up resources. In fact, build resources. Resources are the key that unlocks the doors to success. 

Check your intentions. 

What is the ideal vocation for you? Pull up your assets and use them to your advantage. 

Do a job search to help you find a new career that makes you happy. Always follow through with your plans. Never give up and demand results. 

To achieve your goals discover your wants. 

Take action by recording your specific needs and wants. Review the inner pictures you develop and listen to the voices that tell you how you can improve your personal life. 

We have cute little thingy ma-jigger that tells us when we do wrong.

 Learn to train your conscious to live healthier.

 We have another cutie inside us, which is called instincts. Learn to re-establish your instincts and listen. Listening is the key to help you improve your personal life. Learn how to recognize your body's needs also. 

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Divorce - How to Deal With Money Issues

 You need to find ways to save money during the divorce so you don't end up going into debt or needing a second job. When your marriage is over, the last thing on your mind should be your money, but it usually is. 

You have to learn ways to protect yourself so that you have money to live on through the divorce and after the divorce. 

You will find yourself angry and confused after you have announced your split, but you shouldn't feel overwhelmed about the money you may lose. 

Many people find out the hard way what divorce really means, and it usually means they leave you with half your stuff. 

First, you should never get married without a prenup. If you don't have the prenup, you will be in so much water when the divorce comes. 

You don't need a prenup just if your rich, you need a prenup regardless of your assets. 

When it comes to your finances, why on earth take any chances of losing good, hard-earned money? Secondly, you need to know your finances throughout the marriage. 

You need to know where at least 80% of the money, if not all the money, goes. 

You need to know your wealth. 

Your wealth is your assets minus your debts.

 If you have $10,000 in the bank, and you have a total of $50,000 (which is a combination of credit cards, mortgages, car payments, and other things that you may owe on), then you have $40,000 worth of debt, you're wealth is nothing. 

However, if you own your own home and paid $40,000 for it, and have a couple thousand on credit and a couple grand left on a car payment, you have a lot of wealth that needs to be protected. 

Even if you have debt, you want to make sure that you don't get stuck with it by protecting yourself with a clause in your prenup.

As for refinancing during the divorce, anything that the other person wants, make sure you take your name off the deed. 

If your cars are in both names, get the name taken off just so if they fall behind in payments, you don't have to worry about your credit being ruined. 

Usually, the house has to be sold and divided so you shouldn't have to do anything about your name on the deed. However, they can buy you out and then you will need to get your name off the deed and the mortgage.

To really know your finances you should get your credit report.

 Many credit vendors like credit card companies and credit lenders will let you know what your credit is for free. However, there is a $15 fee to know if you get it from a credit report company. 

You should also open your own bank accounts and always keep your money separate. This way you know what is yours and what is theirs. 

You will also want to keep your credit cards separate as well. This way you can keep your debt separate too. 

When going through the divorce you will want to think about cutting them off your health benefits at work. This way you can save money, plus get them off your benefits completely.

 You will want to change beneficiaries of any policies that you may have with your mate as the beneficiary. If you took his name, you can file paperwork to regain your maiden name, however, it is costly; you may want to save this for later. You will also want to talk to your lawyer about the house. 

The house should, by rights, sell and the proceeds divided up.🏠

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Divorce - How to rebuild your life, color your hair and move on

 Did you know that when you go through a life-changing experience you are likely to go to the beauty salon before you do anything? Most women will actually seek a different hairstyle when something major happens in their life.

 You will want to quickly seek comfort for your divorce and then you have to stand on your own. You may want to go to the hair salon once you have made the announcement of the split and have faced the situation.

 Once you have recognized that you are going through a divorce you will need all the people who love you around so that you are able to get all the support that you need to help rebuild your life and move on.

The first step is to know who you can count on and who can't. This is when your real friends became noticeable. You need to have people who care to support your grieving and to help you find ways to move on.

 Most of your so-called friends will say everything will be fun, don't worry.

 When someone allows your feelings to be written off like that, they are not your friends at all. 

You will want to make sure that you understand the difference between real friends and people who claim to be your friend.

Once you have found the support and strength to move on, you will feel the need to make some drastic changes. You may want to change the color of your hair or you may just want to change your wardrobe or encourage a change in behavior.

 You should try things that you never would have gotten to do with your soon to be ex. You should also think about making changes about your appearance that they wouldn't necessarily encourage from you. 

You will want to do things like change your hair color, change your style of hair, or get an extreme haircut. 

If you have never had short hair, you may want to try it.

 When you cut or when you dye your hair you will find empowerment. You will feel like you have control over yourself and your life. 

The truth of the matter is that you do have all the control. You have the right to change and you have the right to do whatever it is that you want or find that makes you happy.  

Before you allow yourself to fall in depression, you may want to start thinking about what has happened, what has changed, and what you would like to do as a result of.

Obviously, there were many factors that made you and your partner to split, but you don't have to be someone that you aren't. 

Over the years or the course of your marriage, you probably gave up a lot. 

You most likely changed because they encourage you to become exactly what they wanted, but you are no longer in that relationship and you can begin to do the things that you love once again.

Any woman that can go through a divorce and survive it is a very strong person. Some women will collapse and fall into a deep depression.

 Go out and do everything for yourself. 

If you have always wanted to be a blonde, give it a shot. If you have ever wanted to cut your hair, go for it. 

Once you begin to do things that you normally wouldn't do you will find liberation. You will have liberation from all the chains of marriage. 

You will have the freedom to be yourself and show your new freedom in any way that you would like.

Going through a divorce can be a hard time to go through.  It may be difficult to find the right road and get back on track to a normal and healthy life. 

 Sometimes people find that they are going through a messy divorce and it is hard for them to cope with the things that are going on around them.  

When this is the case, it may be necessary for them to seek some form of counseling so that they can feel better emotionally and physically.

Taking the time to get better after a divorce is crucial.  You have to be willing to make the most of your life and if that means that you need to seek the treatment from a professional, then that is what you have to do.  

You should not feel ashamed or embarrassed for this reason. 

You will want to make sure that you are getting the stability in life that you deserve so that you can find a way to make it through this somewhat difficult time in your life.

There are no guarantees that when you get married you will have a happy life.  You are promised the world and sometimes you end up losing some of it in the process. 

You can wind up sad and alone if your marriage does not make it.  The divorce may or may not be your fault but either way; you need to find the inner strength to make it past the hard times.  

Many people will find it hard to make it through all of the situations that come with divorce. They may find it hard to be around old friends, family members and even dealing with work can be a chore. 

You may not be able to find the ability to take on the challenges that you were once able to take care of no matter what.  

When this is something that you have to deal with, you may want to find a counselor to get you through the hard spots. You may be able to get some valuable information that will help you with your ordeal.

You can find many of the counselors in your area to help you with your problems. You may find that you can get a counselor through your church or local community organizations.  

A lot of times there are community workshops that are available for you to participate in so that you can get the help and the satisfaction that you need from a good source of support.

The team effort of support that you get from your family and friends will be a big help too. 

If you have some people to help you through the difficult times, you should take advantage of the support and love that they are willing to give you.  

This can be a huge help to you when you are going through this huge change in your life. You will have to learn to accept help where it is needed and be grateful for the angels in your life that are there to help you through it.

There is no reason to turn down counseling when it is offered to you. If you are in need of support, you should take it and be grateful for it. 

There are many people that are going through the same troubles and like everything, this time will eventually pass and everything will return to normal.  You will not have anything to worry about when you know that you are supported and helped with the effort of a great method of counseling.

  You deserve to feel good again and this may be the one thing to help you.  

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