How to rebuild your life, find a new hobby(after a divorce)

 Moving on is very important when it comes to rebuilding your life after divorce. 

You will be out of it for a while, but you will find that you can rebuild yourself and learn from your mistakes.

 It is hard to part from someone who once was a part of who you where, but you will find that you can move on and find new things in your life to bring you joy and happiness. You can find a new hobby at your church, within your community, or within your home.

After you have allowed yourself to grieve, you will begin to want to find other things to fill your hours. 

If you are the type of person who likes to be alone, you should find new things to learn that you can do by yourself. 

Take an art class at the local community college. Learn how to sculpt or do pottery. You can also learn how to write. You can write a story or article about your life to describe what you are going through. You may find that your hobby could turn into something that you can pursue as a career. 

You will be able to spend the hours productively than sitting in front of the TV eating ice cream. 

Some women will take up a hobby that gets them back into interacting with others.

 You may want to join a local pool or bowling league. 

You may go to the community center and join a card game once a week. If you really want to get back into the interaction, you should take dance lessons. 

Learn how to ballroom or to do some jazz.  

Then you will be able to learn something and find something new to enjoy. You don't have to go alone, you can take a brother or cousin or dear friend to be your partner. It will be something new to experience. If dancing doesn't sound like a good hobby, you can take up a local job of something that you already know. 

If you were really good at a sport, you may want to become an assistant coach or coach of a local high school team or college team. You can start up a new chapter of AYSO or some other thing. 

You can also do some community service to fill your hours. You can do things like feeding the poor; raise money for your church or community, or other services that are needed.

Anything that you can shift your attention to will be a great thing. You will be able to let go of all the hurt and pain and focus on something positive. 

Even if you would like to increase your reading or do a 25,000-piece puzzle, do anything that will stimulate your mind and allow you to adjust your focus. 

When you find a hobby or something to focus your attention on you have less of a chance of focusing on the negative or starting bad habits like drinking or smoking. You will be able to find a positive release. 

You can take many things, many classes, at local colleges that you can do with a friend. 

You can learn how to cook, paint, write, or anything else that will stimulate your creativity. Just remember that you need to find something that interests you and that is convenient. You can also find hobbies around the house too. 

You can go antiquing with a friend or you can remodel or redecorate the entire hours to your likening. Again, anything that will get you to focus on the positive outlooks on life. 

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FEAR AND REASON

 "In civilized life it has at last become possible for large numbers of people to pass from the cradle to the grave without ever having had a pang of genuine fear. Many of us need an attack of mental disease to teach us the meaning of the word." William James. 

We have all heard the seemingly discriminating remarks that fear is normal and abnormal, and that normal fear is to be regarded as a friend, while abnormal fear should be destroyed as an enemy. 

The fact is that no so called normal fear can be named which has not been clearly absent in some people who have had every cause therefor. 

If you will run over human history in your mind, or look about yea in the present life, you will find here and there persons who, in situations or before objects which ought, as any fearful soul will insist, to inspire the feeling of at least normal self-protecting fear, are nevertheless wholly without the feeling. 

They possess every feeling and thought demanded except fear.

 The idea of self-preservation is as strongly present as with the most abjectly timid or terrified, but fear they do not know. 

This fearless awareness of fear suggesting conditions may be due to several causes. It may result from constitutional make-up, or from long-continued training or habituation, or from religious ecstasy, or from a perfectly calm sense of spiritual selfhood which is unhurtable, or from the action of very exalted reason. 

Whatever the explanation, the fact remains the very causes which excite fear in most of us, merely appeal, with such people, if at all. to the instinct of self-preservation and to reason, the thought-element of the soul which makes for personal peace and wholeness. 

Banish all fear.          

It is on such considerations that I have come to hold that all real fear-feeling should and may be banished from our life, and that what we call "normal fear" should be substituted in our language by "instinct" or by "reason," the element of fear being dropped altogether. 

"Everyone can testify that the psychical state called fear consists of mental representations of certain painful results" (James). The mental representations may be very faint as such, but the idea of hurt to self is surely present. 

If, then, it can be profoundly believed that the real self cannot be hurt; if the reason can be brought to consider vividly and believingly all quieting considerations; if the self can be held consciously in the assurance that the White Life surrounds the true self, and is surely within that self, and will suffer "no evil to come nigh," while all the instincts of self-preservation may be perfectly active, fear itself must be removed "as far as the east is from the west." 

These are the ways, then, in which any occasion for fear may be divided: 

As a warning and as a maker of panic. But let us say that the warning should be understood as given to reason, that fear need not appear at all, and that the panic is perfectly useless pain. With these discriminations in mind, we may now go on to a preliminary study of fear. 

a preliminary study of fear.               

Fear is (a) an impulse, (b) a habit, (c) a disease. 

Fear, as it exists in man, is make-believe of sanity, a creature of the imagination, a state of insanity. 

Furthermore, fear is, now of the nerves, now of the mind, now of the moral consciousness. 

The division depends upon the point of view. What is commonly called normal fear should give place to reason, using the word to cover instinct as well as thought. From the correct point of view, all fear is evil so long as entertained. 

Whatever its manifestations, wherever its apparent location, fear is a psychic state, of course, reacting upon the individual in several ways: as, in the nerves, in mental moods, in a single impulse, in a chronic habit, in a totally unbalanced condition. 

The reaction has always a good intention, meaning, in each case, "Take care! Danger!"

 You will see that this is so if you will look for a moment at three comprehensive kinds of fear fear of self, fear for self, fear for others. 

Fear of self is indirectly fear for self danger. 

Fear for others signifies foresensed or forepictured distress to self because of anticipated misfortune to others. I often wonder whether, when we fear for others, it is a distress to self or hurt to them that is most emphatically in our thought. 

Fear, then, is usually regarded as the soul's danger signal. But the true signal is the instinctive and thoughtful reason. 

Even instinct and reason, acting as a warning, may perform their duty abnormally, or assume abnormal proportions. And then we have the feeling of fear. The normal warning is induced by actual danger apprehended by the mind in a state of balance and self-control.

 A normal mind is always capable of such a warning. There are but two ways in which so-called normal fear, acting in the guise of reason, may be annihilated: by the substitution of reason for fear, and by the assurance of the white life. 

Let it be understood, now, that by normal fear is here meant normal reason real fear being denied place and function altogether. Then we may say that such action of reason is a benefactor to man. It is, with pain and weariness, the philanthropy of the nature of things within us. 

One person said: "Tired? No such word in my house!" 

Now, this cannot be a sound and healthy attitude.

 Weariness, at a certain stage of the effort, is a signal to stop work. When one becomes so absorbed in labor as to lose consciousness of the feeling of weariness, he has issued a "hurry call" on death.

 I do not deny that the soul may cultivate a sublime sense of buoyancy and power; rather do I urge you to seek that beautiful condition; but I hold that when a belief or a hallucination refuses to permit you to hear the warning of nerves and muscles, Nature will work disaster inevitably. 

Let us stand for the larger liberty which is joyously free to take advantage of everything Nature may offer for true well-being. 

There is partial liberty that tries to realize itself by denying various realities as real; there is higher liberty which really realizes itself by conceding such realities as real and by using or disusing them as occasion may require in the interest of the self at its best. 

I hold this to be true wisdom: to take advantage of everything which evidently promises good to the self, without regard to this or that theory, and free to use all things, material or immaterial, reasonable or spiritual. 

I embrace your science or your method, but I beg to ignore your bondage to philosophy or to consistency. So I say that to normal health the weary-sense is a rational command to replenish exhausted nerves and muscles. 

It is not liberty, it is not healthful, to declare, "There is no pain!" Pain does exist, whatever you affirm, and your affirmation that it does not is proof that it does exist, for why (and how) declare the non-existence of that which actually is non-existent? But if you say, 

"As a matter of fact I have pain, but I am earnestly striving to ignore it, and to cultivate thought-health so that the cause of the pain may be removed," that is sane and beautiful. This is the commendable attitude of the Bible character who cried: "Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief." 

To undertake to swamp pain with a cloud of psychological fog that is to turn anarchist against the good government of Nature. 

By pain, Nature informs the individual that he is somewhere out of order. This warning is normal. The feeling becomes abnormal in the mind when imagination twangs the nerves with reiterated irritation, and Will, confused by the discord and the psychic chaos, cowers and shivers with fear. 

I do not say there is no such thing as fear. Fear does exist. But it exists in your life by your permission only, not because it is needful as a warning against "evil." 

Fear is induced by unduly magnifying actual danger, or by conjuring up fictitious dangers through excessive and misdirected psychical reactions. 

This also may be taken as a signal of danger, but it is a falsely-intentioned witness, for it is not needed, is hostile to the individual because it threatens self-control and it absorbs life's forces in useless and destructive work when they ought to be engaged in creating values. 

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Exclusive Friendships

 An excellent and gentleman of my acquaintance has said, "When fifty-one percent of the voters believe in cooperation as opposed to competition, the Ideal Commonwealth will cease to be a theory and become a fact." 

Those men should work together for the good of all is very beautiful, and I believe the day will come when these things will be, but the simple process of fifty-one percent of the voters casting ballots for socialism will not bring it about. 

The matter of voting is simply the expression of a sentiment, and after the ballots have been counted there still remains the work to be done. A man might vote right and act like a fool the rest of the year. 

The socialist who is full of bitterness, fight, faction, and jealousy is creating an opposition that will hold him and all others like him in check. And this opposition is well, for even a very imperfect society is forced to protect itself against dissolution and a condition which is worse. 

To take over the monopolies and operate them for the good of society is not enough, and not desirable either, so long as the idea of rivalry is rife. 

As long as self is uppermost in the minds of men, they will fear and hate other men, and under socialism there would be precisely the same scramble for place and power that we see in politics now. 

Society can never be reconstructed until its individual members are reconstructed. Man must be born again. 

When fifty-one percent of the voters rule their own spirit and have put fifty-one percent of their present envy, jealousy, bitterness, hate, fear, and foolish pride out of their hearts, then socialism will be at hand, and not until then. 

The subject is entirely too big to dispose of in a paragraph, so I am just going to content myself here with the mention of one thing, the danger to society of exclusive friendships between man and man, and woman and woman. 

No two persons of the same sex can complement each other, neither can they long uplift or benefit each other.

 Usually, they deform the mental and spiritual estate. 

We should have many acquaintances or none. 

When two men begin to "tell each other everything," they are hiking for senility.

 There must be a bit of a well-defined reserve. We are told that in matter solid steel for instance the molecules never touch. They never surrender their individuality. 

We are all molecules of Divinity, and our personality should not be abandoned. 

Be yourself, let no man be necessary to you. Your friend will think more of you if you keep him at a little distance. Friendship, like credit, is highest where it is not used. 

I can understand how a strong man can have a great and abiding affection for a thousand other men, and call them all by name, but how he can regard any one of these men much higher than another and preserve his mental balance, I do not know. 

Let a man come close enough and he'll clutch you like a drowning person, and down you, both go.

 In a close and exclusive friendship, men partake of others' weaknesses. 

In shops and factories, it happens constantly that men will have their chums. These men relate to each other their troubles they keep nothing back they sympathize with each other, they mutually condole. 

They combine and stand by each other. Their friendship is exclusive and others see that it is. Jealousy creeps in, suspicion awakens, hate crouches around the corner, and these men combine in mutual dislike for certain things and persons.

 They foment each other, and their sympathy dilutes sanity by recognizing their troubles men make them real. 

Things get out of focus, and the sense of values is lost. By thinking someone is an enemy you evolve him into one. 

Soon others are involved and we have a clique. A clique is a friendship gone to seed. 

A clique develops into a faction, and a faction into a feud, and soon we have a mob, which is a blind, stupid, insane, crazy, ramping and roaring mass that has lost the rudder. In a mob there are no individuals all are of one mind, and independent thought is gone. 

A feud is founded on nothing it is a mistake a fool idea fanned into flame by a fool friend! And it may become a mob. 

Every man who has had anything to do with communal life has noticed that the clique is the disintegrating bacillus and the clique has its rise always in the exclusive friendship of two persons of the same sex, who tell each other all unkind things that are said of each other "so be on your guard." 

Beware of the exclusive friendship! 

Respect all men and try to find the good in all.

 To associate only with the sociable, the witty, the wise, the brilliant, is a blunder go among the plain, the stupid, the uneducated, and exercise your own wit and wisdom. You grow by giving have no favorites you hold your friend as much by keeping away from him as you do by following after him. 

Revere him, yes, but be natural and let space intervene. Be a Divine molecule. 

Be yourself and give your friend a chance to be himself. Thus do you benefit him, and in benefiting him you benefit yourself. 

The finest friendships are between those who can do without each other. 

Of course, there have been cases of exclusive friendship that are pointed out to us as grand examples of affection, but they are so rare and exceptional that they serve to emphasize the fact that it is exceedingly unwise for men of ordinary power and intellect to exclude their fellow men. 

A few men, perhaps, who are big enough to have a place in history, could play the part of David to another's Jonathan and yet retain the goodwill of all, but most of us would engender bitterness and strife. 

And this beautiful dream of socialism, where each shall work for the good of all, will never come about until fifty-one percent of the adults shall abandon all exclusive friendships. Until that day arrives you will have cliques, denominations which are cliques grown big factions, feuds and occasional mobs. 

The ideal society will be made up of ideal individuals. Be a man and be a friend to everybody. 

When the Master admonished his disciples to love their enemies, he had in mind the truth that an exclusive love is a mistake. Love dies when it is monopolized. It grows by giving. Your enemy is one who misunderstands you why should you not rise above the fog and see his error and respect him  for the good qualities you find in him? 

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Enjoy Your Life: Change Your Point of View+More than One Way to Skin a Cat: Adventures in Creative Thinking

 "Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees the stars."- Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts 

If you’ve placed second in a writing contest, will you jump for joy and push for better results the next time or will you be discouraged and find an excuse not to join again? 

In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to have a pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you may decide to take the optimist’s route and take a challenging and fulfilling life.

So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now?

Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to academic, athletic, military, occupational, and political success; to popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from trauma.

On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a teen-ager’s disorder’ as well.

Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back up why it really pays to be an optimist:

Optimists expect the best

The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events, which will last a long time and undermine everything they do, are their own fault. 

The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world. What differs is the way they explain their misfortune---it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case. 

Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the 'problem' at hand. They use 'positive reinterpretation.' In other words, they most likely reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation, they perceive it is a challenge and try harder.

They won’t say “things will never get better,” “If I failed once, it will happen again” and “If I experience misfortune in one part of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”

Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies, and unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles. 

People respond positively to optimists

Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be contagious and influence those they are with. 

Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic, and hysteria are treated unfavorably. 

In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial, and sought for advice. 

When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher 

Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.

They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream.

Optimists are healthier and live longer

Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body's ability to fight disease.

Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts. 

So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more fulfilled life.

Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors?  

Why not be resilient? 

Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but don’t just stay there.

 Carry yourself out of the mud and improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And why not inspire others to remove their dark-colored glasses and see life in the bright side?

More than One Way to Skin a Cat: Adventures in Creative Thinking

How many times have you caught yourself saying that there could be no other solution to a problem – and that that problem leads to a dead-end? 

How many times have you felt stumped knowing that the problem laying before you is one you cannot solve. No leads.  No options.  

No solutions.  

Did it feel like you had exhausted all possible options and yet are still before the mountain – large, unconquerable, and impregnable? 

When encountering such enormous problems, you may feel like you're hammering against a steel mountain.

 The pressure of having to solve such a problem may be overwhelming.

But rejoice! There might be some hope yet!

With some creative problem-solving techniques you may be able to look at your problem in a different light. And that light might just be the end of the tunnel that leads to possible solutions.

First of all, in the light of creative problem-solving, you must be open-minded to the fact that there may be more than just one solution to the problem. And, you must be open to the fact that there may be solutions to problems you thought were unsolvable.

Now, with this optimistic mindset, we can try to be a little bit more creative in solving our problems.

Number one; maybe the reason we cannot solve our problems is that we have not really taken a hard look at what the problem is.

 Here, trying to understanding the problem and having a concrete understanding of its workings is integral to solving the problem. If you know how it works, what the problem is, then you have a better foundation towards solving the problem.

Not trying to make the simple statement of what the problem is.

 Try to identify the participating entities and what their relationships with one another are. Take note of the things you stand to gain any stand to lose from the current problem. Now you have a simple statement of what the problem is.

Number two; try to take note of all of the constraints and assumptions you have the words of problem. Sometimes it is these assumptions that obstruct our view of possible solutions.

 You have to identify which assumptions are valid, in which assumptions need to be addressed.

Number three; try to solve the problem by parts. Solve it going from general view towards the more detailed parts of the problem.

 This is called the top-down approach. Write down the question, and then come up with a one-sentence solution to that from them.

 The solution should be a general statement of what will solve the problem. From here you can develop the solution further, and increase its complexity little by little.

Number four; although it helps to have critical thinking aboard as you solve a problem, you must also keep a creative, analytical voice at the back of your head. 

When someone comes up with a prospective solution, tried to think about how you could make that solution work. 

Try to be creative.

 At the same time, look for chinks in the armor of that solution.

Number five; it pays to remember that there may be more than just one solution being developed at one time. Try to keep track of all the solutions and their developments. 

Remember, there may be more than just one solution to the problem.

Number six; remember that old adage," two heads are better than one." ☺🤗

That one is truer than it sounds. Always be open to new ideas. You can only benefit from listening to all the ideas each person has. This is especially true when the person you're talking to has had experience solving problems similar to yours.

You don't have to be a gung-ho, solo hero to solve the problem.

 If you can organize collective thought on the subject, it would be much better.

Number seven; be patient. As long as you persevere, there is always a chance that a solution will present itself. Remember that no one was able to create an invention the first time around.

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Energy Healing 101: Pranic, Tantric, and Reiki

 You have probably come across exotic-sounding terms such as “chakra”, “prana”, “aura”, and “tantra” in your course of reading books on spirituality, sex, and healing in the New Age literature section of the bookstore. 

But what’s the real scoop behind these exotic vocabularies?

Are All Energy Healings the Same?

Chakra or energy center is a term used in Pranic healing, an ancient Hindu system of energy healing. “Prana” means life energy. “Aura” is another terminology traced to Pranic healing. 

Aura is a non-physical body that consists of energy, which exists along with our physical body. The aura that covers our body is said to have seven layers pertaining to the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects of an individual as manifested by energy.

 Studying the color and thickness of auras give ideas on the state of health of individuals. Six colors are associated with aura and interpreted into six personalities. These colors are all present in an individual but one or two are more pronounced.

• Green – ambitious achiever
• Blue – spiritual peacemaker
• White – unconventional chameleon
• Red – activist 
• Orange – creative communicator
• Violet - psychic

Although Tantra is popularly associated with the peculiar practice of sex and spirituality, it is another method of energy healing. It comes from the word “tan” which means to spread or expand. The concept of connectedness is a recurring theme in Tantric writings on sex and spirituality. 

As a method of healing, spirituality, and sex figure prominently. It is presupposed that the union of man and woman can reach spiritual levels during orgasm, which removes the body and mind off collected impurities. These impurities being negative energies can in turn manifest as physical illnesses. 

Unlike Pranic and Tantric healings, which have Hindu origins, Reiki originated from Japan. It is relatively younger than Pranic and Tantric healings having been rediscovered in the early 1900s. 

Reiki stands for universal energy, an energy brought forth by a higher intelligence. Students of Reiki are taught how to tap this energy to heal physical, emotional, and mental illnesses.

Although Pranic, Tantra, and Reiki are all systems of energy healing, they differ in the type of energy tapped for healing: life energy, sexual energy, and universal energy respectively. 

The concepts of the connectedness of mind, body, and spirit; the connection of individuals to all living and nonliving things around them and to the universe; and how energy impacts physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being are some of the salient similarities of these three healing methods. 

Why Do People Turn to Energy Healing?

Pranic, Tantric, and Reiki are considered alternative methods of healing. In spite of the availability and relative accessibility of modern medicine, how come more and more people are being drawn to them? Here are some possible reasons:

· Energy healing worked where modern medicine failed.

For several reasons both explainable and unexplainable, modern medical treatment failed to heal ailments and conditions in several if not many persons. Research or data may not be able to support this statement. 

But for the families of the dying as well as for the dying patient, they would take the risk of using alternative methods ranging from herbals and organics, faith healers, witch doctors, and New Age healing techniques just to get well.

· People perceive modern medicine to be isolating. 

Medical treatments are oftentimes focused on the disease and its causative agent, which can make a patient feel isolated and treated like a mere host of the disease. 

Although recent developments in hospital practice are gradually promoting the holistic treatment of a patient, the perception still persists. Unlike in energy healing, since energy and spirituality are intimately linked, the patient feels that all aspects of his health are being attended to.

· Energy healing is non-obtrusive and natural thus it is safer.

Repeated surgical procedures are physically and emotionally traumatic for most patients. It is but a logical and attractive option for both patients and families to look for less stressful health interventions. 

·Faith is a good way of relieving stress.

Meditation is part and parcel of energy healing methods and this is an added come-on for highly stressed people. Moreover, sophisticated equipment is not required thus it becomes all the more convenient for students and future students of energy healing.

The battle between alternative healing and mainstream medicine continues as both present the benefits of their approach. But in the final analysis, what matters is the restoration of good health. 

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How to live healthier+Focus on your mental and emotional side to gain self improvement

 The main thing to a healthier you, is to eat the right exercise and visit your family doctor regularly. 

This is all part of a healthier you and if your healthier you will feel better about your self. 

One of the biggest problems we have today is that most people do not eat right. While the world is wising up, they still fall short of proper eating habits, since we are rushed by a face-paced world. 

What do I have to do to eat right?

Eating right is a hard thing to do for some of us and for others it is easier to do. Eating healthy is a big problem these days. 

For some of us it is hard to buy healthier food due to the fact it cost more to fix meals the right way. 

There are a lot of people that are just making it in the real world without having to buy a loaf of bread that cost $2.50 a loaf when they can get a loaf for $.50 so what do they do get the $.50 loaf and knowing that its bad for them but that’s all they can afford. So eating right can be hard for you too. We have options.

 You can grow your own home garden; bake your own bread for a fraction of the cost and so on. 

What are some of the things I can eat?

Some of the things you can eat right are vegetables, dairy products, high-protein dishes and so on. You need a certain amount of fat, carbs, etc, which helps to keep you healthy.  

You can get a list from your family doctor or you can go to the library to get information on the basic four food groups. If you cannot afford to eat right then maybe you should not eat as much. In addition, do some excising; excising is always good for you. 

Exercise will increase your health, even if you cannot afford the four basic groups of nutritious foods. In addition, you have many services available to you, which can offer you food supplies.  

How do I learn how to eat right?

If you want to learn how eat right you can read about it in books from the local library or maybe you will want to talk to your doctor. 

Your doctor might be able to tell you how to go about doing this and the right way for your body. You cannot just jump in and change everything about you overnight. You have to take the time to start and to learn. 

For some of us that have been eating wrong all of our life, this would be hard to do overnight. Then again, others may not have any problems with it. You want to consider your position and move forward. 

Will I feel better if I eat right?

You will feel a lot better if you eat right. Eating right has a lot to do with how we feel. If we lack nutrients, it can make one feel depressed, ill, etc. 

Since we get vitamins from our foods, you may want to include natural regimens of vitamins in your daily schedule also. 

The right vitamins we need every day to make us feel good about our self. We get many vitamins from what we eat. Vitamins are what make us feel like a person. 

Focus on your mental and emotional side to gain self-improvement

Not everyone believes this but the emotional and mental aspects of a person, when combined, leads to better self-improvement. 

Emotions love to dominate our actions and reactions, even though we do not want it to happen sometimes. The society often see emotions as a sign of weakness, so people are used to putting them aside and focusing on the rational aspects more and more. 

No matter how strict and logical you may be, you will always feel. One way or another, someone or something will get through you.

Positive emotions are a lifelong goal for many of us concerned about emotional health and self-improvement.

 What is more important; the amount of money you made during your life or the times you laughed out of sheer joy? 

People tend to put their positive emotions behind their negative feelings.

 This is one of the biggest problems that people come across during their lives. 

There is no clear way to ignore a negative experience and try to replace it with a positive one. Life just does not work that way.

For example, when you were a child, if your goldfish dies, you would be heartbroken. Your parents will probably buy you another goldfish but the sorrow is still there. 

Things get even more complex when you become an adult. A fight with your spouse the night before will affect your entire day. 

You will go to work angry, tired, and your mind will wander.

 On the way home from work you will not notice the sun shining and you would not be tempted to stop at a roadside stand to pick up some fresh fruits and vegetables. 

All this because one negative thought has contaminated the way you perceive the reality around you.

At this moment you will realize finding a safe place to relax your mind will do wonders for your emotional and mental improvement.

That place is relatively easy to find. It can be an actual place or an imaginary location. The best idea is to totally lose yourself in it. 

Let us say you have a problem with your mind and it just would not go away. Go bowling. 

Do not know how? Just give it a shot. 

Get caught up in the game. Your mind will drift away from the negative thoughts that dominated your last hours or days and start processing a whole new kind of information.

A safe haven can take many forms.

 It can be a song, a movie, even a person or animal. The main thing is to allow yourself to get completely involved with this new activity. 

You might still get flashes of the problem every now and then. Ignore it and get even more absorbed in what you are doing.

When the bowling game, the song, or the movie ends you will abruptly return to reality. You will probably want to retreat back to a safe place. Do not do it. 

The safe place exists only as a helping hand, not as a solution to your life's problems, may it be small or big. It serves only as an escape route. 

You will return from your safe zone with an increased energy level. You will feel better about yourself and gain more confidence. You will see that any issue can be resolved. 

This is how a small escape from a harsh reality can increase your emotional and mental health. Try to do this often and you are on your way to better self-improvement. 

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Discovering Values that Improve your Personal Life+Impossible is Just a Word

 Values make us as a person and define how we invest our time, energy and money. When our values are high, we can reach the limits of improving our personal life. Throughout our life, we decide what we want to do with our time. Time is essential, since time runs out quick. For this reasons you, want to invest time, spending your time wisely. Spending time wisely includes activities, entertainment, work, quality time and so on. 

The average person spends most of their day working. At the end of the day they return home to spend time watching television, or engaging in activities with the family. Unfortunately, family is a thing of the past. If you want to improve your personal life, you are going to have to put family first. If you have wife and kids, or husband and kids, you will need to learn how to invest time with the family. Unfortunately, you have five or six hours after a day of work to do this. You also want time for self. 

To achieve a time frame that works for everyone try considering discovering new interests. When you discover new ideas, it will help you open the doors to success. Your directions in life are based on new ideas. For instance, if you come home after work most times without spending time with the family, try practicing eating at the dinner table each night with your family. Do not allow room for excuses. As you feast together, take time to ask how each person’s day went. This has proven to enhance relationships. When you enhance relationship, you are also building a new bridge to personal improvement. 

One of the biggest mistakes some people make is hanging out with poor influences. If you hang out with poor influences, you are wasting time. Your values are low. You will need to build your values to improve your personal life by changing company. You want to hang around with positive influences. Let me draw you a picture. 

If you hang around at bars with your friends, you are wasting time. In time, you will face court costs, fines, and perhaps jail, especially if you visit the bars and drive home after drinking. In time, you will learn new bad habits. Each bad habit you learn takes over your life, which only keeps you down. 

Finding new positive influences is a key to success.

 Anyone who thinks positively will rub off on you, helping you to develop good habits. When you find friends that care about you, you will have friends that do not allow you to drink and drive. 

You will have friends that care about your future. 

To make new friends you have to learn communication skills. Don’t be afraid to smile and say hi. There is nothing wrong with being friendly. 

One has to use good judgment, however, since this world is filled with bad characters that have harmful intents. In addition, many people today fear friendliness. 

When you learn to communicate, however, you are building blocks that lead you to a happier future. Failure to communicate is one of the leading reasons why businesses fail, relationships falter, children kill, and so on. 

Communication comes in many forms. 

Sometimes when you sit and listen as well as pay attention to gestures or body language you learn best. Observation is the ultimate key that helps you to gain successfully and learn to develop skills that lead you to improve your personal life. 

You have many options in the world. Take those options, use them to your advantage and you are on the road to improving your personal life.

 Impossible is Just a Word

Everyone, at some point of his or her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? 

Who hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen?

 And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic.

This is a sad turn of events in our life. Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self-actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing.

But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.

The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can't do this. It's too hard. It's too impossible. No one can do this.

However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.

Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee.

 Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does.

On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming of totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them.

 The result?

 Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations. 

If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible.

 If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.

Try this exercise.

 Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life. 

Under one header, list down things ‘you know you can do’. Under another header, write the things you might be able to do.’ 

And under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’

Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. 

Check them when you are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’

As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’

As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible to become easier to accomplish. 

And the impossible begin to seem possible after all.

You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high and start working towards that goal little by little. 

However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic. 

Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned.

On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.

Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one.

Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be.

So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.

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