IMPORTANCE OF GOOD CLOTHING+ Improve your Personal Life in Awareness

 First impressions are apt to be permanent; it is therefore of importance that they should be favorable. 

The dress of an individual is that circumstance from which you first form your opinion of him. It is even more prominent than manner, It is indeed the only thing which is remarked in a casual encounter, or during the first interview. It, therefore, should be the first care.

What style is to our thoughts, the dress is to our persons. 

It may supply the place of more solid qualities, and without it the most solid are of little avail. 

Numbers have owed their elevation to their attention to the toilet. Place, fortune, marriage have all been lost by neglecting it.

Your dress should always be consistent with your age and your natural exterior. 

That which looks out, on one man, will be agreeable on another. 

As success in this respect depends almost entirely upon particular circumstances and personal peculiarities, it is impossible to give general directions of much importance. 

We can only point out the field for study and research; it belongs to each one’s own genius and industry to deduce the results. 

However ugly you may be, rest assured that there is some style of habiliment which will make you passable.

If, for example, you have a stain upon your cheek which rivals in brilliancy the best Chateau-Margot; or, are afflicted with a nose whose luster dims the ruby, you may employ such hues of dress, that the eye, instead of being shocked by the strangeness of the defect, will be charmed by the graceful harmony of the colors. 

Everyone cannot indeed be an Adonis, but it is his own fault if he is an Esop.

Almost every defect of the face may be concealed by judicious use and arrangement of hair. 

Take care, however, that your hair is not of one color and your whiskers of another; and let your wig be large enough to cover the whole of your red or white hair. 

It is evident, therefore, that though a man may be ugly, there is no necessity for his being shocking.

Improve your personal life with self-awareness

To improve your self-awareness you first need to concentrate on your past and emotions. 

 How did you get where you are now and how can you get to where you want to be in life? Pulling up the resources in your mind will help you become acquainted with yourself. 

A person needs to know and trust him or herself before they can trust others.

 Don’t depend on the judgment of others, rather use your own judgment and it will make you feel like a new person. You should always stop and think so that you learn how to trust you and know who you are. With the fast pace world we live in now you probably put many things aside and because you don’t have time. Take time for yourself and think about it before you do.

When looking back on your life look for the things that made you the way you are today.  Try working on a positive attitude in order to become completely yourself and get that self-awareness back.

Start doing things that make you happy and successful. 

Bring happiness to yourself and others, it will make you feel good and bring joy to your life. When you are happy you’ll have less stress as well.

Meditation takes a lot of practice so be patient when using yoga practices and does not expect results to happen overnight.

Try to rediscover yourself by writing a journal. Write about how you feel, what you want in life; record it all, write the results as you progress. 

This will help you decide what is important and what isn’t.  

Knowing what is important and what isn’t will bring out the value in you. 

Knowing your values in life are the key to self-awareness and your personal growth and happiness will bet better as each day goes by.

Set some goals and deadlines on when you want to have them accomplished. Take action right away allowing you to learn and be flexible. 

With an open mind study and learn from other people. Finding someone to support you in your goals and to listen when you need to talk about where you want to go will help make them easier.

You will have to change the way you have done in the past; you learn by mistakes and you don’t want them to happen again. You want new results and you can do that if you do the mistakes over again.  

You will grow as a person once you build your self-awareness. 

You will accept yourself and others you’ll become more self-reliant and motivated. 

When your self-awareness grows you, will benefit more as a person and become more successful in whatever you want to do in your life.

Stay in control of your life; don’t let your life take over and control you. By understanding yourself and mind, you learn how to find yourself, know what has gone wrong, and fix it.

 Keeping your life in balance is very important to keep your self-awareness up where it needs to be in order to be happy and then you can add value to your life making you feel better.

Happy people are generous and giving.

 Give as much of yourself as you can and then push to give more.

 The more you give the better it will make you feel and you’ll be able to forget the rough and hard times. Since Christmas is here try, choosing a special gift, wrap it for a person who has nothing. 

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Genuine Happiness Comes from Within

 Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere 

– “How did their life become so adorably sweet? 

How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?”  Then I pause and observed for awhile… I figured out that maybe, they start to work in a place called ‘self’.

So, how does one become genuinely happy? 

Step 1 is to love yourself. 

My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.”  To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes. 

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment.

 When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else and do something else. 

But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, winning, and losing. 

These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life, has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite of all these? 

I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams, and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that. 

Imagine life as a big scoreboard like those which are used in the NFL's. 

Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself 

“Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today.

 I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th-month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life don’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest, or not even the best. 

So, how do you become genuinely happy? 

 Everyone has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. 

Happiness for a businessman may mean success. 

So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world.

 It is about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self 

“Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire.

 You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person. 

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”.

For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted:

 “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Coz then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”

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How Hobbies Improve Your Personal Life

 When you have a hobby that you like and you will spend time doing this. This will help keep you from getting into trouble since you will stay busy. 

This will free your mind and you from stress as well. If you have bad habits, such as drinking or drugging you can invest your time in hobbies, which will free your mind of the binds that drugs and alcohol hold you. 

When you have a hobby that you like and you will spend time doing this. This will help keep you from getting into trouble since you will stay busy. This will free your mind and you from stress as well.

 If you have bad habits, such as drinking or drugging you can invest your time in hobbies, which will free your mind of the binds that drugs and alcohol hold you.

What are your hobbies?

Hobbies are something that you enjoy doing, it could be collecting coins, dolls, hot wheel cars, stamps, knitting, less whatever you enjoy doing. 

When you enjoy doing hobbies, you spend not all of your extra time doing them and you think about doing anything else.

 Like getting into trouble. 

Some people may make their work is their hobbies this could be working on cars or heavy equipment to semis they enjoy it so much they are always doing it no matter what when some of us want a break from work so we do something else that we enjoy doing. 

We all have different hobbies and different ideas about what hobbies are. Some people make fishing and hunting their hobbies.

Do hobbies cost a lot of money to get started?

Hobbies can get very expensive. 

Then other hobbies do not cost hardly anything to do. Like collecting coins can get very costly. 

If you can’t afford to put money in on a hobby maybe you should try to pick one that does cost a lot like knitting or something to do with crafts there are a ton of things you can do that cast nothing. Hot wheel cars only cost around a dollar. 

Perhaps you can spend time in shops looking at hot wheels, purchase one and go back each week to purchase another. 

Hot Wheel cars in time will become collector's items. In fact, cars are already collector items, i.e. some are.

How do I get started with my hobby?

You have to decide what you enjoy, things that interest you like maybe collecting coins, or stamps or maybe you want to learn the history of them so this can be a good hobby for someone. 

Maybe someone likes to work with yarn and make things so that may be some one-hobby knitting or crouching. Maybe someone likes to work on cars and that is a hobby of theirs. There is no real way to get started other than doing it and deciding what you want to do as a hobby.

So remember when you want to get your mind free of stress or do not want to get into trouble.

 Sit down and try to figure out what you what to do for a hobby. Perhaps you will want to write them down and pick out the one you think you would like. 

There is nothing wrong with having more than one hobby or later on deciding that you don’t want to do this after all and find another one. Just remember hobbies can help you improve your life by helping you to stay out of trouble and keep your mind clear of things so you can think more clearly.

Other hobbies included doll collecting. 

The older porcelain dolls are a common collector item you may want to consider. You will find a wide variety of dolls online at eBay stores and so on. In addition, you will find the dolls are various collector stores. 

To learn more about hobbies go online and review the different items collected so that you can decide what hobby is best for you.

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Divorce - How to rebuild your life, don't avoid the holidays

 Divorce is something that no one wants to do;

 however, in some cases, it is inevitable.  

This is something that sometimes has to happen so that a person can happen and feel good about whom they are so that they can start living again. 

 It is important for the two people that are going through the divorce to stay active with friends and family members and to not let it get them down.

The first holiday after your divorce can be the worst. 

This can be the most uncomfortable situation that you could ever be in.  There are some things that you can do to help the holiday go a little bit better and may even help it to be a little easier to deal with the fact that things are no longer the same and that you will have to accept that fact.  

No matter what holiday it is, you are going to see that things are different.  

You will not be the same team that you always were in the past and now you have to find a way to move on and have a great holiday regardless of this fact.

 You will want to make the experience as easy as you can on everyone including your friends, family, and children if you have any.  

You may want to consider changing a few things for your next holiday after the divorce. You may have to come with the determination that traditions must change and that you can get through them.  You may have to work out arrangements for the children if any and make sure that they are taken care of at this difficult time. 

You want them to have the best holiday that they can even if it means that you must sacrifice some things.  

You may want to find something else to do for your traditions on the holidays. 

You want to make them fun and entertaining as well as enjoyable and less painful for you and anyone else that is involved in the family function.  

You also need to make sure that you are taking time out for yourself. You need to keep your thoughts good so that you can stay focused on making this first year the best that you can for everyone.

You want to make sure that you have your own downtime. If you feel like being sad or crying, you should be able to do that alone. 

 You may need a few minutes of each day to get yourself composed and feeling better about the entire situation.  You need to make sure that your mind is free from any distress when it comes time for the family gathering.

You may want to use some humor for the situation.  

You need to find the fun side in everything and this will include holidays after your divorce.  

You need to find ways to laugh even if they are stupid and childish. 

You want to keep a positive attitude for not only yourself but also anyone else that may be affected.  

Another good idea is to look ahead.  

You want to stay focused on the future.  

Remember the first holiday is the worst and things will only get better as time passes and you are able to accept the way that things are a little better.

  In time you will feel more relaxed and you will not remember this first holiday that made you so upset.  

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MOTIVATION >> THE HEART OF SELF IMPROVEMENT

 Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. 

Getting flunked grades to make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income.

 Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments.

 It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need to improve ourselves. 

With the countless negativities the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? 

Try the tips I prepared from A to Z…

A - Achieve your dreams. 

Avoid negative people, things, and places. 

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

B - Believe in yourself, and in what you can do.

C – Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.

D – Don’t give up and don’t give in.

 (again)Thomas Edison did not fail once, twice but more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. 

Make motivation as your steering wheel.

E – Enjoy. Work as if you don’t need money. 

Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.

F – Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t lose sight of them.

G – Give more than what is enough. Where do motivation and self-improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things. 

H – Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force. 

I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. 

Don’t let other people get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.

J – Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone.

K – keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self-improvement.

L – Learn to love your self. Now isn’t that easy?

M – Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.

N – Never lie, cheat, or steal. Always play a fair game.

O – Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be. 

P – Practice makes perfect. The practice must be about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes.

Q – Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate – are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?

R – Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. 

We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark.

S – Stop procrastinating.

T – Take control of your life. Discipline or self-control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self-improvement.

U – Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second.

V – Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on dry land.

W – Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self-improvement.

X – X-Factor is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to put on “extras” on your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.

Y – You are unique. No one in this world looks acts or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you’re just going to spend it once.

Z – Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!

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Looking at the Entire Picture to Improve your Personal Life

To improve your personal life you have to consider the whole pie. You have to review your liability, behaviors, actions, emotional responses, and overall standard of living. Once you review the details, you will find it easier to move ahead and make the necessary changes. To get started begin with a checklist. 

How are your behaviors?

What are your behaviors? Do you engage in activities that lead toward negative consequences? Do you drink heavily? Do you drug? Do you smoke? Do you associate with the wrong crowd? 

Once you write down your behaviors that pull down consider the details. If you engage in activities that lead toward negative consequences, likely you are not looking at the whole pie. Rather you may act before you speak or do something. 

What you need to do is to consider consequences before you speak or act.

 If you drink heavily, perhaps you have an alcohol problem. 

There is nothing wrong with admitting you have a problem. You will need to seek help. There is nothing wrong with seeking help. If you have a drug problem, you will need to apply the same rules mentioned when handling alcoholism. If you smoke, you want to consider ways to stop. You will need willpower and the goal of quite. 

If you associate with the wrong crowd, you will need to evaluate your situation.

 What do these people bring to your table? Do they give or take from you? 

How do you handle problems?

Every day there is some kind of a problem that has to be thought out and decided what to do about the issue. What are some things that you can go to help? 

You should always think about the problem before you make a decision on the issue. You will make healthier decisions by looking at the entire picture. 

If the problem is too big for you to handle alone, ask for help. Talk with friends, family, or experts. 

How about paying bills: 

DO you pay bills on time? 

Paying bills is a major problem that leads to many hassles. If you pay your bills on time, however, you can reduce some of these hassles. Failing to pay bills only builds stress. 

You will need to set a budget that works within your means to pay your bills on time. Maybe you can get a better paying job, so you make more money.  

There might be some times that you are late but you should try to keep up as best as you can this will help take off some stress.

Do you visit your doctor regularly?

Keeping your doctor visits and exercising will help relieve stress. Visiting your doctor regularly will help you keep an eye on your health. Healthy people live a productive life. 

What actions do you take to improve your life?

As long as you think things out before you make a decision you will work to improve your personal life. You will also need to take steps to reduce stress, by avoiding harmful actions, such as smoking, drugs, or alcoholism. 

You can benefit by paying bills on time, visiting your doctor, exercise the mind and body daily and so on. 

If you have problems quitting on your own, remember help is available. 

You have many options, including inpatient services, outpatient services, group support, one-on-one services, and more. 

To learn more about these services go online.

 You will also find help at local government agencies in your area. 

To improve your life you can also volunteer to help someone. You can wrap a gift this year for a homeless or deprived child.

 Many things you can do to improve your personal life. 

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Become a Leader

 First of all, let's define leadership. To be a leader, one must be able to influence others to accomplish a goal or an objective. He contributes to the organization and cohesion of a group.

Contrary to what most people believe, leadership is not about power. It is not about harassing people or driving them using fear. It is about encouraging others towards the goal of the organization. 

It is putting everyone on the same page and helping them see the big picture of the organization. You must be a leader, not a boss.

First of all, you have to get people to follow you. How is this accomplished?

People follow others when they see a clear sense of purpose. People will only follow you if they see that you know where you are going. Remember that bumper sticker? 

The one that says, don't follow me, I'm lost too? The same holds true for leadership.

 If you yourself do not know where you're headed to, chances are people will not follow you at all.

You yourself must know the vision of the organization. Having a clear sense of hierarchy, knowing who the bosses are, who to talk to, the organization's goals and objectives, and how the organization works is the only way to show others you know what you are doing.

Being a leader is not about what you make others do. It's about who you are, what you know, and what you do. You are a reflection of what you're subordinates must be.

Studies have shown that one other base of good leadership is the trust and confidence your subordinates have of you.

 If they trust you they will go through hell and high water for you and for the organization.

Trust and confidence is built on good relationships, trustworthiness, and high ethics.

The way you deal with your people, and the relationships you build will lay the foundation for the strength of your group. The stronger your relationship, the stronger their trust and confidence is in your capabilities.

Once you have their trust and confidence, you may now proceed to communicate the goals and objectives you are to undertake.

Communication is a very important key to good leadership. Without this, you can not be a good leader. The knowledge and technical expertise you have must be clearly imparted to other people. 

Also, you can not be a good leader and unless you have good judgment. You must be able to assess situations, weigh the pros and cons of any decision, and actively seek out a solution.

It is this judgment that your subordinates will come to rely upon. 

Therefore, good decision-making is vital to the success of your organization.

Leaders are not do-it-all heroes. You should not claim to know everything, and you should not rely upon your skills alone.

You should recognize and take advantage of the skills and talents your subordinates have. Only when you come to this realization will you be able to work as one cohesive unit.

Remember being a leader takes a good deal of work and time. It is not learned overnight. Remember, also, that it is not about just you. 

It is about you and the people around you

So, do you have the drive and the desire to serve required of leaders? Do you have the desire to work cooperatively with other people? Then start now. Take your stand and be a leader today.

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