BUILD YOUR SELF ESTEEM+Changing Habits to Improve your Personal Life

 So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you.  So which dart pins should you avoid?

 Negative Work Environment

Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned.  Stay out of this, it will ruin your self-esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is. 

Other People’s Behavior

Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, suffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self-esteem, as well as to your self-improvement scheme. 

 Changing Environment

You can’t be a green bug on a brownfield. 

Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for a while, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. 

The change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to it. 

Past Experience

It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson. 

Negative World View

Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self-esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.

Determination Theory

The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes. 

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers.

 NO. 

Being positive, and staying positive is a choice.

 Building self-esteem and drawing lines for self-improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self-esteem and improve your self.”   

In life, it is hard to stay tough especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battlefield, we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bulletproof.

 Life’s options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bulletproof armor ideally means ‘self-change’. 

The kind of change comes from within. 

Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior, and our way of thinking.

Building self-esteem will eventually lead to self-improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have, and what we do.

 It is like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self-esteem, we take control of our mission, values, and discipline.  Self-esteem brings about self-improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self-esteem? 

Be positive.

 Be contented and happy. 

Be appreciative.

 Never miss an opportunity to compliment.

A positive way of living will help you build self-esteem, your starter guide to self-improvement.

Changing Habits to Improve your Personal Life 

Habits, oh those nasty habits. Habits are developed from training, influences, observation, and practice. We develop many habits throughout our life, in which some are good and others are bad. Good habits we can keep, but if one wants to improve their life the bad habits have to take a hike.

 Getting rid of bad habits however is not easy, especially if an addiction is involved. For this reason, we can take a few steps to learn how you can change your habits. 

Making excuses: 

People wander through life making excuses. Anytime a person sees something complicated, they will often make excuses for why they cannot deal with the problem. 

“This is just the way I am.” 

This is a common problem in the world, which we’ve all heard billions of times. 

If you are out to improve your life, however, you need to say, “This is something that hinders me from achievement and I have the power to change it. 

The first key to success is stop making excuses. Learn how to tell the truth. The truth is the only answer that leads you to improve your personal life. Once you learn to tell the truth, you will need to commit self to learning new behaviors and habits. 

You can commit by choosing a new habit. 

Today I plan to drink more water.

 Some of us detest water, yet water is our way of living healthier. 

Instead of detesting something that will save your life, start saying, today I will drink more water. 

Even if you start out drinking a glass for the first couple of days, you are making changes. 

Today I am going to stop judging others and myself. 

This is a common mistake people make in the world. They spend time judging others and themselves. 

This gets them nowhere but in a world of chaos. 

You make your bed, you must learn to sleep in it, which is why you should change your ways.

 Judging is only for our Master in the sky. 

Do you think negative? I can’t change this. My life is full of nonsense, I can’t swing it anymore. Why me? Who put a tag on my head, saying persecute me.

 If you spend your life thinking negatively and saying negative connotations, try changing your ways today. For instance, say, I can change something and I am going to. Instead of saying life is full of nonsense, accept it as truth yet move ahead to make your life better. 

Why me is a common question, which no one knows why, yet we have to accept it, make better decisions and move ahead.

 If you feel persecuted, ask you what you are doing that makes you feel this way. Do you have friends or family members weighing you down? If so, then kick their butt down the road and make new friends. No one in life is worth you suffering ongoing. You have the power to make changes, yet you do not have the power to change other people. 

When you start to make changes to improve your life, start small.

 Instead of jumping the gun, take baby steps to success. Too many times people try to change overnight. This only leads to frustration. 

When you are working to change your life and habits make sure you seek support and feedback. You do not have to walk the road to success alone.

 Feedback is found at your library, the Internet, at colleges, and so on. You will find support along these channels as well. Ask someone you trust to support you and give you feedback when needed also.