There is a great life that lies head after divorce. You will be able to move on with your life. You can get up and move to a new place and start a completely new life. Some people will do just that. They will change jobs, they will refinance, and they will begin to date again. Just because the divorce is done and is final, this doesn't mean that you have gone through all the steps. You still have to pick up the pieces and try to move on. It's hard for many to move on because they have spent so much time with that person and it can be hard to break up someone who doesn't want to. There are a lot of feelings that you will go through, however you will find that there is a lot of hope that lies in the bounds of the aftermath.
After the divorce you have refinanced and everything is done and over. You don't have a mortgage, you may not have a car payment, you may not have anything to your name. This is a great opportunity to relocate. You don't have to go to another state, but even another county would be a huge change for you. You will have to find a way to get back in the game.
The first step to rebuilding after moving is to find a new job. You may want to find a job that allows you to work more because now you don't have to worry about sharing your time with your wife, or you may decide that you don't need a high paying job anymore because you don't the bills or family to support. You can adjust to your new living by going up or standing back from employment. You can purchase a new home and start there, or you can just not make any commitments and rent. Your like is completely up to you.
It may be a long way to come back once you have been knocked down by a divorce. You may have to start from nothing. You will have new views, new goals, a new life.
You can leave everything behind or you can build yourself back up. Some people just find it easier to leave everything than truly deal with anything. It is a hassle to go through a divorce and the alimony can make you need to get another job.
You will find that there are so many things in a divorce that can cause you to take up drinking, but then there are so many more things that you can do to make things better.
You can make things better by going for an important job that you didn't want to take because of your family. You have nothing holding you back. You can re-do everything your way.
You don't have to worry about pleasing anyone but yourself.
You are completely independent.
That is one good thing about divorce. It can also be scary. If you feel like you can't stand on your own, you can ease your way into being independent.
You can move in with some friends, you can take a less demanding job, you can purchase a lease for an apartment, whether than purchase a home.
You don't have to make any commitments to anything. Once you feel like you can get back in the game you can begin to make commitments like buying a house or asking someone on a date. It's a slow progression back.
Once you have relocated you can spend your time like you wish and you can change anything in your life. You should try to be independent because you will make the progression back quickly. You can be okay sooner than later.
Divorce, find an apartment and move on in life
Moving out and finding an apartment can be a good thing. It will start the divorce proceedings. However, if you have children, you do not want to move out.
If you were to move out the other spouse may end up getting the children because the life in the home and it's a stable environment.
Also, they may be given the home just for the fact that there are children and you have already made arrangements to live elsewhere's.
However, if you move out you will have relief from the arguments and torture that many people make while trying to push a divorce through. If you would really like to keep the house, then you should stay until the judge has made his decision. At the temporary relief hearing, this is when you can make your plea to come back or make the other move out.
When you do move out and find an apartment you can look for apartments that are for those who are going through a divorce.
They are usually very cheap and most people will keep to themselves. If you do move out and without the children, than you should see them as much as you possibly can arrange so that the judge will allow you to keep your visits.
You may want to purchase an apartment that has plenty of room for the children and you may want to set up with rooms so that when they come to your place they can be entertained and comfortable.
When you move you, take everything that you would like with you.
You should take any personal things like your clothes and jewelry.
You should also inventory everything that you take so that it can't come back as stealing.
If you take it out right away, the law will see it as yours.
Depending on what it is and the value of it (money or personal) you may be able to keep it or you may have to be ordered to give it back.
But, if you would like it, please take it with you, because you never know what they may do to your things. Also, don't be greedy; leave most of the furniture, unless it was in your den or private area. You should never clean the house out, regardless of who owned what. It will look bad in court, plus you don't want the children to be disrupted.
When you move out, don't go to the girlfriend/boyfriend's place.
You want to show independence and it may be just what you need. If you cannot afford a place on your own, you should move in with a friend or family member.
You should not' move back to the parents because you never know what dirt the lawyer can dig up about your family when it comes to the custody of the children.
Also, make sure that this other person would have no personal interaction with you so they can't say that you are dating each other. Moving in with a close friend or cousin will make the rent easier to be paid and you won't be completely alone. You will have someone to stay with that will support you.
Once you are settled in your new place you can gradually begin to build a new life.
Go out, meet new people, have fun. Just don't do anything that would make you look bad if someone brought it up in court.
This way you can move on with your life, but you don't mess up a good beginning. If there aren't children involved you may even want to move out of state if your family is located somewhere else. This way you can have family around you be able to move on.
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