How to To Stop Crying, During a Divorce+How to Talk to Your Children

It's hard getting over a relationship, especially if you have promised to be with each forever, but divorce can sometimes be a blessing.

 It's okay to cry for a few days, but you have put yourself back together and move. Divorce is not the end of your life, it's just the end of a relationship. Although that makes seem so casual, you may have other things that you need to focus on, rather than your marriage.

 If you have children, this would be a great time to start focusing on them more. 

Go to the movies, go to the mall, just do things with your children so that you can focus on something worth your time. 

Thousands of people have gone through a divorce, so you're not the only one. Why should you cry anyway?

  It's not your fault that it didn't work, you two probably were just at two different places in life. It's not because of you personally.

 There are so many things that you need to focus on that you may become overwhelmed, but that's okay, it's a natural feeling. Instead of going in a depression, you need to focus on what's going on. You need to begin the process. 

The first process of separating may be therapy. You may want to go alone or you can go with your mate. 

Even though it may seem too late for therapy, it will help you two be great parents. If you can get over all the issues and all the angry and you can valid each other's feelings than you can have a great relationship after the marriage. 

You may want to go alone at first. 

This way you can get all of your feelings out and you can release some of the anger and some of the hurt. Therapy is a great starting place because you can find yourself again and you can identify things that will help you move on. 

There are a lot of questions that you may feel unanswered. Know that, this was an act of fate. It could be the result of his actions, your actions, or both. However, regardless you cannot think of yourself as the problem. Fate was the problem. There are certain aspects of the universe that pulls people together and then apart, much like a magnet. 

If you think about it in words of fate, you will find strength, and you will also find the courage to move on. This is just a chapter in the many books of your life.

 Don't worry because there will be love after divorce and there will be other exciting chapters of your life still to be read, so it's okay to let go. You never what you may find after this whole thing blows over. 

It may take weeks or months to come to the fact, but you take as much time as you need. To end the tears, to end the pain, you need to find other things that make you happy and just do it. If you find comfort in friends, be with them as much as possible.

 If you have children, it goes the same. 

If you would really like to stop the crying, you will get out of bed, brush your teeth, get dressed up, and go to dinner, with friends, or family, or even by yourself. Getting up and looking like a hundred bucks will begin the process of letting go.

Whenever you feel lonely or blue, reach out to someone that you love and support you and talk. Talking helps everything. Share your feelings, and whatever you do, do not isolate yourself. You should be with people who love you during this time of need.

If your child is young, you will want to talk to them about your divorce with your partner. You may want to leave the talk up to the parent that is closer to the child if they are in their teens or older.

 A child, at any age, will have an issue with their parents during a divorce. 

You will want to be careful about how you handle the situation because you never know what may happen and what the child might do to react to the divorce. To a small child, divorce is the hardest. Their entire world seems to collapse. 

They will become enraged and scared. They won't know what to expect until you talk to them, they will feel like they have just become an orphan. When it comes to a divorce with children involved, you will want to make it as quickly and do a lot of damage control. 

You will need to talk to them about how they feel and you can learn how to support your child through this. 

How to you tell your child that daddy/mommy is moving out?  You should talk about your break up and the divorce as soon as you know that it will go through. 

You will need to tell the child what is going to happen so they can expect everything and not be affected by surprise or shock. 

You need to make sure that they understand that your marriage did not fail because of them. You will want to tell your child that they are still loved and that nothing, other than sleeping arrangements will change. 

The kids need to know that they aren't losing a parent. If you find it hard to be together with your partner, then you may take your child aside and talk to them with another that loves them very dearly. You may want to ask the babysitter or someone whom they are close to so that they can receive support. 

You should also try to make the talk quick and easy. You will need to give your statement and a little definition of what means. 

Tell them how the divorce will affect their lives and you should be as honest as possible. You need to tell them why you are getting a divorce, explain the word divorce, and then tell them how it will affect their relationship with their parents.

 Make sure that you don't say anything bad about your partner. Just tell your kids that you feel that the two of you would be better apart. The kids are smart and may agree, but they will be angry and scared because they do not feel secure. 

Don't ever say anything about the divorce that is negative, even if you are on the phone in a different room. You never know how it will affect their lives.

You should not just tell your kids how you feel and about the divorce and then never talk about it again. You need to encourage them to ask questions for the next couple of months. Smaller children will find difficulty so you will want to make sure that feel safe and secure even if one of their parents moves out.

Some of the questions that you need to be prepared to answer are: 

What's a divorce, Why are you two getting a divorce, Do you still love them, and they may ask you to see the other parent. 

All of these questions need to be answered as soon as possible so that they can feel secure again. You may want to ask their teachers if they are acting up and for any tips or news that may suggest that the child is having a hard accepting the news.