"Life With Woody" 10 inspirational quotes than can improve yourself

 It might take a little coffee or probably a few rounds of beer or any other booze you could get your hands-on when it comes to relaxing after a hard day's work. 

Well, yeah I'm guilty about that one as well unless I'm caught dead wearing a lampshade over my head after a few rounds of vodka… half-naked! Okay, bad example and I apologize to everyone reading this after getting nightmares about me in that state of drunken stupor.

Just don't ask how it happened, please.

But what's really interesting is that how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress? 

I mean, the new age thing like Zen or yoga is one of the good things and it actually works. Is there room for the intellectual side of people who can actually smell the roses-in-a-can while on the move? It kind of had me thinking that there really must be something in this 'mind-over-matter' thing.

Humor is indeed the best medicine there is whenever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants after laughing so hard. 

Regardless of what's been happening, and to those who have gone through the ordeal, it's better to just laugh while facing the troubles with a clear mind than anger with a clouded vision. One of my favorite celebrities of all time may have to be Woody Allen.

 Now, this is one guy who gives you the in-your-face bluntness that he pulls out with gusto, even without even trying. You can talk just about anything with a man, and he's bound to mock the subject and you'll end up laughing rather than being upset about it.

Woody Allen has this to say:

1. "Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons." It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn't have to take an arm and a leg to get it.

2. "I believe there is something out there watching us. Unfortunately, it's the government." 'Nuff said.

3. "There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?" This happens to be one of the classic ones. I mean the issue about life's little problems isn't all that bad, until 'he' shows up.

Sure, relationships can get complicated or do have the complications that probably any author about relationships is bound to discover it soon. 

We follow what our heart desires unless you're talking about the heart as in the heart that pumps blood throughout your body.

4. "Love is the answer, but while you're waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty interesting questions." And if you want more, just keep on asking!

5. "A fast word about oral contraception. I asked a girl to go to bed with me, she said 'no'." It sounds, 'practical', I think.

And when it comes to everyday life, he really knows how to make the best out of every possible scenario, and it doesn't involve a lawsuit if he strikes a nerve.

6. "Basically my wife was immature. I'd be at home in the bath and she'd come in and sink my boats." I never had a boat in my bathtub before. Just staring at it while soaking in hot water makes me seasick already.

7. "I am not afraid of death, I just don't want to be there when it happens." If it rains, it pours.

8. "I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose." It could get worse when you're guzzling on beer… or mouthwash, and it happened to me once!

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"Relaxing with a Mental PDA" Your 5 minutes daily program to Stress management

 We all have this favorite expression when it comes to being stressed out, and I wouldn't bother naming all of them since it may also vary in different languages. But when it comes down to it, 

I think that it is how we work or even relax, for that matter that triggers stress.

 Ever been stressed even when you're well relaxed and bored? I know I have.

Since Error! Hyperlink reference not valid. is unavoidable in life, it is important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions to stress. 

Here are some of the things that can be done by just remembering it, since life is basically a routine to follow like brushing your teeth or eating breakfast. You can do a few of them in a longer span of time, but as they say-- every minute counts.

Managing time

Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity. This will help reduce your stress.

To improve your time management:

• · Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself. 
• · Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time. 
• · Prioritize your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you. 
• · Manage your commitments by not over- or under committing.
• -  Don't commit to what is not important to you. 
• · Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines. 
• · Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like. 
• Build healthy coping strategies

It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. 

With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life.

Lifestyle

Some behaviors and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. 

Try to:

• · Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations. 
• · Have a sense of purpose in life. 
• · Get enough sleep since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping. 
• · Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defense against stress. 
• · Get moderate exercise throughout the week. 
• · Limit your consumption of alcohol. 
• · Don't smoke. 

Social support

Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community.

 It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health.

Changing thinking

When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body's stress, just as an actual threat does. 

Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress.

• · Thought-stopping helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress. 
• · Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly. 
• · Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it. 
• · Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated. 
• This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. 
• Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style. 

Even writers like me can get stressed even though we're just using our hands to do the talking, but having to sit for 7 or 8 hours is already stressful enough, and have our own way to relieve stress. 

Whether you're the mail guy, the CEO, or probably the average working parent, stress is one unwanted visitor you would love to boot out of your homes, especially your life.

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Why not Watch an Anger Management Movie? + Why Children may Benefit from Anger Management

 Since anger management seems to be a huge problem in society today, there have been many programs developed, books are written, Internet websites created and anger management movies filmed. Although all of this help is in place and available for anyone, not all people with anger issues benefit from the same source.

 For some people attending an anger management program may be effective and cause major changes in their behavior. Being able to steal away alone with a book may be helpful to a person with anger issues. Seeing their problems in print and being able to sort through it in their mind might be a great anger management tool. 

The Internet is a great source regarding anger management and some may find it helpful to view the different sites and read stories about individuals with anger management issues. However for many people who have difficulties controlling their anger, watching an anger management movie might be what it takes to break them out of their pattern of angry outbursts.

Watching an anger management movie would make the individual actually see, with their own eyes and hear with their own ears, just what anger does to a person and those around them.

 An anger management movie would likely provide illustrations and situations where individuals act on their anger.

 The movie may apply exactly to an individual's current circumstance. It may hit home - so to speak. Watching the actors play out their lives and their behavior may be an eye-opener. 

It may take watching a husband abuse a child or wife, a mother attacking her kid, a child bullying another child, to realize that anger is a significant problem. 

When an angry person is in their situation, they are likely blaming it on whoever gets in the way.

 Being in the picture they are incapable of watching their performance. 

If given the chance to see it on the big screen, they might be surprised and even devastated by their actions. 

Watching an anger management movie would probably be like watching yourself in a similar situation. This may be the tool that works best for some individuals. 

An anger management movie will not only give illustrations of the actual situations involving anger. The movie will likely provide information regarding anger management techniques. 

Using these techniques and the characters in the movie, likely there would be illustrations of people being introduced to anger management techniques and programs. 

The movie would explain the steps to dealing with anger issues.

 This type of anger management movie might be the answer to many people's problems.

 It would be fitting if the anger management movie showed the person in the same situation as the first scene, as a changed individual. Showing how the individual was able to receive help through anger management and turn their lives around, may just be the incentive needed. 

No doubt there are all sorts of anger management movies available. 

The Internet is a great source of information regarding anger management and anger management resources such as books and anger management movies. 

If you think you or someone you know would benefit from watching an anger management movie, it would be a wise idea to get your hands on one.

Why Children may Benefit from Anger Management

Dealing with children who have anger problems may be challenging and require thought and imagination. A child's mind is normally not developed enough to deal with intense feelings of anger. They cope with these emotions in their own childlike manner which usually involves acting out or throwing a tantrum. 

Unaware of the specifics which cause these behavioral actions, children are not prepared to explain or share their feelings. 

Finding programs and resources for effective anger management in children will likely require planning and well thought out programs. 

A person who is developing an anger management program for children needs to consider activities and exercises that may interest children. Sticking a child in a support group setting or arranging an appointment with a psychiatrist will not likely produce positive results.

 Since the child doesn't understand their feelings of anger themselves, it would be difficult to share or talk about them with others.

 Children would benefit from anger management activities designed specifically to address their problems. 

Children are familiar with worksheets, coloring pages, and puzzles. These sorts of activities are used daily in the school setting. Incorporating anger management lessons into these activities would make sense. Anger management worksheets could be disguised as fun and interesting. 

These anger management worksheets could teach techniques and strategies for controlling anger in such a way that children would understand and respond to it. 

Using familiar situations in coloring pages or related words in puzzles may help a child to deal with anger issues without making the situation complicated. 

Children love to play games and have fun. 

Besides using anger management worksheets, it might be beneficial to incorporate games into a children's anger management program. 

Many issues regarding anger in children arise from jealousy and competition.

 Playing games that teach children healthy interaction with other children as well as a fair play would make a difference in their behavior. Teaching children that it's alright to play games and not always be the winner would be beneficial to a child's behavioral development. 

Designing activities that include role-playing might help children to realize that they can't always be the center of attention. 

Anger management for children can be taught in all sorts of ways which will be both productive as well as enjoyable.

When children display signs of anger and upset, anger management worksheets could be used to uncover the underlying problem. 

Listing different possibilities for their anger and having them read over them to see which statements apply to them might be beneficial in treating kids with anger issues. Simple sentences, using everyday dilemmas that a child might encounter could be used in these anger management worksheets. 

Children may not even realize the reason for these worksheets yet they may be providing relevant information that could help in the treatment of their problem. In order to create an anger management worksheet that will benefit children, the individual needs to understand how a child's mind works, as well as what interests them and use this knowledge to develop an effective anger management program for children.

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Looking at the Entire Picture (2nd article)

 To improve your personal life you have to consider the whole pie.

 You have to review your liability, behaviors, actions, emotional responses, and overall standard of living. Once you review the details, you will find it easier to move ahead and make the necessary changes.

 To get started begin with a checklist. 

How are your behaviors?

What are your behaviors? 

Do you engage in activities that lead to negative consequences? 

Do you drink heavily? 

Do you drug? 

Do you smoke? 

Do you associate with the wrong crowd? 

 If you engage in activities that lead toward negative consequences, likely you are not looking at the whole pie. Rather you may act before you speak or do something. 

What you need to do is to consider consequences before you speak or act.

 If you drink heavily, perhaps you have an alcohol problem. 

There is nothing wrong with admitting you have a problem. 

You will need to seek help. 

There is nothing wrong with seeking help. 

If you have a drug problem, you will need to apply the same rules mentioned when handling alcoholism.

 If you smoke, you want to consider ways to stop. You will need willpower and the goal of quite.

 If you associate with the wrong crowd, you will need to evaluate your situation. 

What do these people bring to your table? Do they give or take from you? 

How do you handle problems?

Every day there is some kind of a problem that has to be thought out and decided what to do about the issue. What are some things that you can go to help? You should always think about the problem before you make a decision on the issue. You will make healthier decisions by looking at the entire picture. If the problem is too big for you to handle alone, ask for help. Talk with friends, family, or experts. 

How about paying your bills: 

DO you pay bills on time? Paying bills is a major problem that leads to many hassles. If you pay your bills on time, however, you can reduce some of these hassles.

 Failing to pay bills only builds stress.

 You will need to set a budget that works within your means to pay your bills on time. Maybe you can get a better paying job, so you make more money.  

There might be some times that you are late but you should try to keep up as best as you can this will help take off some stress.

Do you visit your doctor regularly?

Keeping your doctor visits and exercising will help relieve stress. Visiting your doctor regularly will help you keep an eye on your health. Healthy people live a productive life. 

What actions do you take to improve your life?

As long as you think things out before you make a decision you will work to improve your personal life. You will also need to take steps to reduce stress, by avoiding harmful actions, such as smoking, drugs, or alcoholism. 

You can benefit by paying bills on time, visiting your doctor, exercise the mind and body daily, and so on, constantly improving yourself, till you see the wanted results.

If you have problems quitting on your own, remember help is available. You have many options, including inpatient services, outpatient services, group support, one-on-one services, and more. To learn more about these services go online. You will also find help at local government agencies in your area. 

To improve your life you can also volunteer to help someone. You can wrap a gift this year for a homeless or deprived child. Many things you can do to improve your personal life. 

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LAWS OF MAGNETIC ACTION+LAWS OF MAGNETIC DEVELOPMENT

 FIRST LAW: Relation of Power to "Tone". 

The effectiveness of magnetism in action depends upon harmony of "tone" between its possessor and any other person, and in securing such "tone"  harmony, on any magnetic plane, in any particular psychic state, at any given time, psychic and physical magnetism mutually cooperate. 

SECOND LAW: Magnetic Intention. 

The magnetic intention ("I INTEND MAGNETICALLY") intensifies otherwise unconscious magnetism, and runs through all the mass of general etheric vibrations like a theme in complicated music, imparting to them unity, character, intelligence, and definite and enormous effectiveness in practical employment. 

THIRD LAW: Influence of Purpose. 

In the employment of magnetism, long-run purpose establishes etheric character, and specialized purpose confirms that character if it concentrates the general purpose, but confuses that character, perhaps destroys it, if it antagonizes the general purpose. 

FOURTH LAW: Force of the Ideal. 

The idealism of motive determines the character of etheric vibrations, and idealism of magnetic activities determines the quality of magnetism achieved. 

FIFTH LAW: Sway of Other Interest. 

The general sway of other interest in life, and the particular influence of other interest on special occasions, impart to uses of magnetism enormous effectiveness, and not least in relation to self. 

SIXTH LAW: Reaction of Admiration. 

The consciousness of admiration for others, recognized by them, reacts with tremendous power to stimulate magnetic action. 

SEVENTH LAW: Measure of the Intake. 

In the magnetic life, intake of power is correctly measured by the output of power: inversely in waste, directly in intelligent expenditure. 

EIGHTH LAW: Adjustment. 

Magnetic effectiveness is proportioned to accuracy and fulness of adjustment, to things, to laws, to forces, to times, to situations, to qualities, to facts, to truths, to persons, and only studied experience can discover and establish such adjustment. 

The problems of adjustment to persons are these: 

With inferiors, to put self magnetically, without the appearance of condescension, on their levels for the end in view, applying then the general principles of magnetism. 

With equals, to apply the general principles. 

With superiors, to assume their level while magnetically deferring, without adulation or humility, to such superiority, regardless of its reality or unreality, for the end in view, applying the general principles of magnetism. 

NINTH LAW: The magnetism of identity. 

The magnetic value of adjustment expresses the force and completeness with which the individual can identify himself with another person, suggesting oneness through attitude, gesture, act, eye, tone, language, and telepathic sympathy. 

TENTH LAW: The use of reactions. 

Magnetic skill exhibits in the manner in which beneficial reactions are received and utilized, negative or indifferent reactions are ostensibly ignored, yet constituted stimulation for further persistent magnetic action, and hostile reactions are refused, without ostentation, but with determination (if worthwhile) to "win out" through better adjustment and increased magnetic endeavor. 

ELEVENTH LAW: Magnetic attack. 

Magnetic success demands the direct attack when etheric harmony of "tone" is assured, but the indirect method otherwise; that is, such attack-methods as will secure that harmony. 

TWELFTH LAW: The conquest of antagonism. 

Magnetism ostensibly ignores, and refrains from, exciting antagonism; but, when antagonism is evident, rejects it and proceeds on the indirect attack, or openly accepts it and adopts the direct or the indirect method as the one or the other promises speediest and most perfect harmony of "tone". 

THIRTEENTH LAW: Mortal antipathies. 

Success-Magnetism conquers the influence of deep-seated natural antipathies only by avoiding their causes. 

FOURTEENTH LAW: Re-adjustment.

 The etheric life is an unceasing reaction, and magnetism, therefore, demonstrates itself by squaring with every issue and making of every change and every defeat a new opportunity. 

FIFTEENTH LAW: Control of output. 

It is important to know when to open the circuit that is, to cut off the current of magnetic force as it is to know when to close the circuit to pour forth magnetic influences. 

SIXTEENTH LAW: Concession.

 Concession becomes magnetic in its timeliness. If premature or belated, it defeats magnetism. 

SEVENTEENTH LAW: Harmonic conditions. 

Magnetism enhances through beauty of personal surroundings, in cleanliness, order, adornment, art, literature, music, and the like. 

EIGHTEENTH LAW: Sovereignty of will. 

Is the director of native and unconscious magnetism and the creator and director of developed magnetism. The power of will is indispensable to magnetic power. 

NINETEENTH LAW: Energy in magnetic action. 

The projection of magnetic influence proportions to inner, conscious intensity of psychic and nervous states. Exploding powder in the gun calls for the man behind the weapon, and the soul within the man, and powerful vibrations within the soul's arena, and magnetic intention within the vibrations, and psychic energy within the intention. 

TWENTIETH LAW: Self-control. 

Magnetic power becomes effective precisely as mastery of self, in restraint and in handling, approaches perfection. 

TWENTY-FIRST LAW: Magnetic handling of self. 

The attitude of magnetism, the magnetic intention, and psychic pose, "I stand positively magnetic toward this person or this situation,"  constantly maintained, ultimately instructs in all the arts of magnetic self-handling through the law of auto-suggestion, and realizes in the practical form its own ideals. 

TWENTY-SECOND LAW: The magnetic mask. 

The mask of magnetism achieves effectiveness when it covers personal states and purposes in a manner positively to attract, and in that manner alone. 

TWENTY-THIRD LAW: Magnetic consciousness.

 Intense magnetic consciousness without thought concerning it secures, by its uplifting and stimulating influence, the greatest exaltation of personal powers when employed. 

TWENTY-FOURTH LAW: Magnetic faith. 

 Deep and vital faith in the certainty of magnetic success renders all latent and developed magnetism dynamic if that faith is thrown into action. 

TWENTY-FIFTH LAW: The demand in use.

 In the application of magnetism to any task, intense, persistent demand upon the Universal Forces swings them directly into the effort. 

TWENTY-SIXTH LAW: The affirmation in use. 

When, in the application of magnetism, one affirms, mentally, intensely, persistently, "I am receiving and exerting power," he unconsciously calls to aid all the success-elements and makes himself a center toward which the Universal Forces inevitably gravitate. 

TWENTY-SEVENTH LAW: The magnetic telescope. 

The magnetic attitudes, faith, demand, and affirmation, constitute a magnetic telescope through which the distant goal of success is magnified and all nearer obstacles, lures, and irritating conditions are closed out of view. 

TWENTY-EIGHTH LAW: Magnetic accumulations. 

Magnetism, through correct application to life, not only develops in the individual, but accumulates in his environment, and reacts beneficially without direct personal supervision. 

TWENTY-NINTH LAW: The personal atmosphere. 

The personal atmosphere exactly reflects the inner self, and it furnishes a perfect field for magnetic effectiveness only when the self and the body are clean and buoyantly healthy.  

THIRTIETH LAW: Subordination of physical magnetism. 

In the subordination of physical to psychic magnetism, each finds its greatest effectiveness according to the relative development of both orders. 

THIRTY-FIRST LAW: The fixed idea.

Long-continued association with some fixed, great and attractive idea sets into operation certain deep, subconscious operations of the soul, which, for a time unrecognized and unmanifest in life, gradually and surely coordinate all individual powers thereto, induce a working of the whole system in harmony therewith, and finally emerge in the objective life and consciousness as a unified, actual dynamic force. 

The idea has swung the individual, has transformed him, has harmonized and intensified his faculties and his personal ether, has come to sovereignty in his personal atmosphere, and from there exerts a dynamic force upon other people and life's conditions. 

This article has tried to saturate you with the idea of success coordinating with its necessary elements and has thus endeavored to swing your whole being into the mighty belief that large success is also for you. 

LAWS OF MAGNETIC DEVELOPMENT

FIRST LAW: Discovery of the endowment.

The limits of magnetic endowment latent in every normal person emerge only through prolonged effort in the culture of magnetism. 

SECOND LAW: Difficult environment. 

Magnetism develops in direct proportion to the difficulty of the environment. 

THIRD LAW: Magnetic intention. 

Magnetism evolves solely through the multiplication of endowment into the environment by the persistent magnetic intention. 

FOURTH LAW: Free adjustment. 

The culture of magnetism imperatively demands that central adjustment of the self to all powers which realizes in absolute psychic freedom. 

FIFTH LAW: Concentration. 

The magnetic multiplication of endowment into the environment is only possible to intense, persistent, and unified concentration to the methods of Success-Magnetism. 

SIXTH LAW: Purpose-ideals. 

Growth of noblest magnetism depends, in the larger sense, upon general adherence to a single, preeminent, ideal life-purpose, and, in the particular sense, upon specialization of the individual in studied magnetic conduct related to that end. 

SEVENTH LAW: Receptivity. 

The highest magnetism realizes through magnetic laws in proportion as the inner self maintains alert receptivity to the Universal Forces. 

EIGHTH LAW: Demand. 

The silent, persistent demand of the self upon the Universal Magnetism makes it a center toward which the Forces naturally gravitate. 

NINTH LAW: Affirmation.

 Continuous, intense affirmation of actual possessed magnetic power stimulates the success-elements, maintains receptivity, emphasizes demand, harmonizes and intensifies inner etheric vibrations, and induces a positive movement of the universal ether and its forces inward toward the central self. 

TENTH LAW: Psychic energy. 

All personal magnetism involves psychic energy developed and directed by magnetic intention. 

ELEVENTH LAW: Self-control. 

Magnetic energy concentrates through psychic control of its tendencies. 

TWELFTH LAW: Magnetic quality. 

The inner psychic attitude the character of magnetic intention determines the quality and effectiveness of the effort to multiply endowment into the environment, and, therefore, the kind and degree of magnetism attained. 

THIRTEENTH LAW: Self-valuation. 

Other things being equal, magnetism unfolds as gratifying, but unostentatious, self- valuation develops. 

FOURTEENTH LAW: Use of self. 

Under conformity to other magnetic laws, the highest magnetism issues only from the constant best use of self at its best to the best advantage. 

FIFTEENTH LAW: Magnetic heroism. 

Self-pity, complaint, and all kindred states confuse, weaken and waste every variety of magnetic power, while heroic acceptance of conditions for their betterment, and courageous assertion of self as master, conserve, and enormously develop the noblest magnetism in proportion to the sway of the magnetic intention. 

SIXTEENTH LAW: Action and reaction. 

Highest magnetism involves not only studied cultivation but, as well, the magnetic utilization of stimulating reactions induced by intelligent employment. 

SEVENTEENTH LAW: Recovery. 

Whoever, on the occasion of any psychic (magnetic) failure or defeat, dedicates the whole of aroused desperation to the recovery of ground, infallibly induces a stress in the etheric life around him which ultimately draws to his aid, with the onsweep of worlds, the Universal Forces. 

EIGHTEENTH LAW: Reproduction. 

"Everything is transmitted, everything is transformed, everything is reproduced" (Ochorowicz); in physical and psychic health alone, therefore, are the Universal Forces transmitted through perfect etheric vibrations, transformed through effective etheric conduction, and reproduced in magnetism by adequate and harmonious psychic control of etheric capabilities. 

NINETEENTH LAW: Superiority of culture. 

The crude values of natural magnetism, the automatic functions of unconscious magnetism, demonstrate at their best solely as they climax in full conscious magnetic culture.

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IMPORTANCE OF GOOD CLOTHING+ Improve your Personal Life in Awareness

 First impressions are apt to be permanent; it is therefore of importance that they should be favorable. 

The dress of an individual is that circumstance from which you first form your opinion of him. It is even more prominent than manner, It is indeed the only thing which is remarked in a casual encounter, or during the first interview. It, therefore, should be the first care.

What style is to our thoughts, the dress is to our persons. 

It may supply the place of more solid qualities, and without it the most solid are of little avail. 

Numbers have owed their elevation to their attention to the toilet. Place, fortune, marriage have all been lost by neglecting it.

Your dress should always be consistent with your age and your natural exterior. 

That which looks out, on one man, will be agreeable on another. 

As success in this respect depends almost entirely upon particular circumstances and personal peculiarities, it is impossible to give general directions of much importance. 

We can only point out the field for study and research; it belongs to each one’s own genius and industry to deduce the results. 

However ugly you may be, rest assured that there is some style of habiliment which will make you passable.

If, for example, you have a stain upon your cheek which rivals in brilliancy the best Chateau-Margot; or, are afflicted with a nose whose luster dims the ruby, you may employ such hues of dress, that the eye, instead of being shocked by the strangeness of the defect, will be charmed by the graceful harmony of the colors. 

Everyone cannot indeed be an Adonis, but it is his own fault if he is an Esop.

Almost every defect of the face may be concealed by judicious use and arrangement of hair. 

Take care, however, that your hair is not of one color and your whiskers of another; and let your wig be large enough to cover the whole of your red or white hair. 

It is evident, therefore, that though a man may be ugly, there is no necessity for his being shocking.

Improve your personal life with self-awareness

To improve your self-awareness you first need to concentrate on your past and emotions. 

 How did you get where you are now and how can you get to where you want to be in life? Pulling up the resources in your mind will help you become acquainted with yourself. 

A person needs to know and trust him or herself before they can trust others.

 Don’t depend on the judgment of others, rather use your own judgment and it will make you feel like a new person. You should always stop and think so that you learn how to trust you and know who you are. With the fast pace world we live in now you probably put many things aside and because you don’t have time. Take time for yourself and think about it before you do.

When looking back on your life look for the things that made you the way you are today.  Try working on a positive attitude in order to become completely yourself and get that self-awareness back.

Start doing things that make you happy and successful. 

Bring happiness to yourself and others, it will make you feel good and bring joy to your life. When you are happy you’ll have less stress as well.

Meditation takes a lot of practice so be patient when using yoga practices and does not expect results to happen overnight.

Try to rediscover yourself by writing a journal. Write about how you feel, what you want in life; record it all, write the results as you progress. 

This will help you decide what is important and what isn’t.  

Knowing what is important and what isn’t will bring out the value in you. 

Knowing your values in life are the key to self-awareness and your personal growth and happiness will bet better as each day goes by.

Set some goals and deadlines on when you want to have them accomplished. Take action right away allowing you to learn and be flexible. 

With an open mind study and learn from other people. Finding someone to support you in your goals and to listen when you need to talk about where you want to go will help make them easier.

You will have to change the way you have done in the past; you learn by mistakes and you don’t want them to happen again. You want new results and you can do that if you do the mistakes over again.  

You will grow as a person once you build your self-awareness. 

You will accept yourself and others you’ll become more self-reliant and motivated. 

When your self-awareness grows you, will benefit more as a person and become more successful in whatever you want to do in your life.

Stay in control of your life; don’t let your life take over and control you. By understanding yourself and mind, you learn how to find yourself, know what has gone wrong, and fix it.

 Keeping your life in balance is very important to keep your self-awareness up where it needs to be in order to be happy and then you can add value to your life making you feel better.

Happy people are generous and giving.

 Give as much of yourself as you can and then push to give more.

 The more you give the better it will make you feel and you’ll be able to forget the rough and hard times. Since Christmas is here try, choosing a special gift, wrap it for a person who has nothing. 

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Genuine Happiness Comes from Within

 Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere 

– “How did their life become so adorably sweet? 

How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?”  Then I pause and observed for awhile… I figured out that maybe, they start to work in a place called ‘self’.

So, how does one become genuinely happy? 

Step 1 is to love yourself. 

My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.”  To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes. 

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment.

 When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else and do something else. 

But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, winning, and losing. 

These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life, has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite of all these? 

I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams, and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that. 

Imagine life as a big scoreboard like those which are used in the NFL's. 

Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself 

“Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today.

 I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th-month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life don’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest, or not even the best. 

So, how do you become genuinely happy? 

 Everyone has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. 

Happiness for a businessman may mean success. 

So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world.

 It is about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self 

“Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire.

 You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person. 

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”.

For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted:

 “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Coz then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”

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How Hobbies Improve Your Personal Life

 When you have a hobby that you like and you will spend time doing this. This will help keep you from getting into trouble since you will stay busy. 

This will free your mind and you from stress as well. If you have bad habits, such as drinking or drugging you can invest your time in hobbies, which will free your mind of the binds that drugs and alcohol hold you. 

When you have a hobby that you like and you will spend time doing this. This will help keep you from getting into trouble since you will stay busy. This will free your mind and you from stress as well.

 If you have bad habits, such as drinking or drugging you can invest your time in hobbies, which will free your mind of the binds that drugs and alcohol hold you.

What are your hobbies?

Hobbies are something that you enjoy doing, it could be collecting coins, dolls, hot wheel cars, stamps, knitting, less whatever you enjoy doing. 

When you enjoy doing hobbies, you spend not all of your extra time doing them and you think about doing anything else.

 Like getting into trouble. 

Some people may make their work is their hobbies this could be working on cars or heavy equipment to semis they enjoy it so much they are always doing it no matter what when some of us want a break from work so we do something else that we enjoy doing. 

We all have different hobbies and different ideas about what hobbies are. Some people make fishing and hunting their hobbies.

Do hobbies cost a lot of money to get started?

Hobbies can get very expensive. 

Then other hobbies do not cost hardly anything to do. Like collecting coins can get very costly. 

If you can’t afford to put money in on a hobby maybe you should try to pick one that does cost a lot like knitting or something to do with crafts there are a ton of things you can do that cast nothing. Hot wheel cars only cost around a dollar. 

Perhaps you can spend time in shops looking at hot wheels, purchase one and go back each week to purchase another. 

Hot Wheel cars in time will become collector's items. In fact, cars are already collector items, i.e. some are.

How do I get started with my hobby?

You have to decide what you enjoy, things that interest you like maybe collecting coins, or stamps or maybe you want to learn the history of them so this can be a good hobby for someone. 

Maybe someone likes to work with yarn and make things so that may be some one-hobby knitting or crouching. Maybe someone likes to work on cars and that is a hobby of theirs. There is no real way to get started other than doing it and deciding what you want to do as a hobby.

So remember when you want to get your mind free of stress or do not want to get into trouble.

 Sit down and try to figure out what you what to do for a hobby. Perhaps you will want to write them down and pick out the one you think you would like. 

There is nothing wrong with having more than one hobby or later on deciding that you don’t want to do this after all and find another one. Just remember hobbies can help you improve your life by helping you to stay out of trouble and keep your mind clear of things so you can think more clearly.

Other hobbies included doll collecting. 

The older porcelain dolls are a common collector item you may want to consider. You will find a wide variety of dolls online at eBay stores and so on. In addition, you will find the dolls are various collector stores. 

To learn more about hobbies go online and review the different items collected so that you can decide what hobby is best for you.

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Divorce - How to rebuild your life, don't avoid the holidays

 Divorce is something that no one wants to do;

 however, in some cases, it is inevitable.  

This is something that sometimes has to happen so that a person can happen and feel good about whom they are so that they can start living again. 

 It is important for the two people that are going through the divorce to stay active with friends and family members and to not let it get them down.

The first holiday after your divorce can be the worst. 

This can be the most uncomfortable situation that you could ever be in.  There are some things that you can do to help the holiday go a little bit better and may even help it to be a little easier to deal with the fact that things are no longer the same and that you will have to accept that fact.  

No matter what holiday it is, you are going to see that things are different.  

You will not be the same team that you always were in the past and now you have to find a way to move on and have a great holiday regardless of this fact.

 You will want to make the experience as easy as you can on everyone including your friends, family, and children if you have any.  

You may want to consider changing a few things for your next holiday after the divorce. You may have to come with the determination that traditions must change and that you can get through them.  You may have to work out arrangements for the children if any and make sure that they are taken care of at this difficult time. 

You want them to have the best holiday that they can even if it means that you must sacrifice some things.  

You may want to find something else to do for your traditions on the holidays. 

You want to make them fun and entertaining as well as enjoyable and less painful for you and anyone else that is involved in the family function.  

You also need to make sure that you are taking time out for yourself. You need to keep your thoughts good so that you can stay focused on making this first year the best that you can for everyone.

You want to make sure that you have your own downtime. If you feel like being sad or crying, you should be able to do that alone. 

 You may need a few minutes of each day to get yourself composed and feeling better about the entire situation.  You need to make sure that your mind is free from any distress when it comes time for the family gathering.

You may want to use some humor for the situation.  

You need to find the fun side in everything and this will include holidays after your divorce.  

You need to find ways to laugh even if they are stupid and childish. 

You want to keep a positive attitude for not only yourself but also anyone else that may be affected.  

Another good idea is to look ahead.  

You want to stay focused on the future.  

Remember the first holiday is the worst and things will only get better as time passes and you are able to accept the way that things are a little better.

  In time you will feel more relaxed and you will not remember this first holiday that made you so upset.  

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MOTIVATION >> THE HEART OF SELF IMPROVEMENT

 Pain may sometimes be the reason why people change. 

Getting flunked grades to make us realize that we need to study. Debts remind us of our inability to look for a source of income.

 Being humiliated gives us the ‘push’ to speak up and fight for ourselves to save our face from the next embarrassments.

 It may be a bitter experience, a friend’s tragic story, a great movie, or an inspiring book that will help us get up and get just the right amount of motivation we need to improve ourselves. 

With the countless negativities the world brings about, how do we keep motivated? 

Try the tips I prepared from A to Z…

A - Achieve your dreams. 

Avoid negative people, things, and places. 

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

B - Believe in yourself, and in what you can do.

C – Consider things on every angle and aspect. Motivation comes from determination. To be able to understand life, you should feel the sun from both sides.

D – Don’t give up and don’t give in.

 (again)Thomas Edison did not fail once, twice but more than thrice before he came up with his invention and perfected the incandescent light bulb. 

Make motivation as your steering wheel.

E – Enjoy. Work as if you don’t need money. 

Dance as if nobody’s watching. Love as if you never cried. Learn as if you’ll live forever. Motivation takes place when people are happy.

F – Family and Friends – are life’s greatest ‘F’ treasures. Don’t lose sight of them.

G – Give more than what is enough. Where do motivation and self-improvement take place at work? At home? At school? When you exert extra effort in doing things. 

H – Hang on to your dreams. They may dangle in there for a moment, but these little stars will be your driving force. 

I – Ignore those who try to destroy you. 

Don’t let other people get the best of you. Stay out of toxic people – the kind of friends who hates to hear about your success.

J – Just be yourself. The key to success is to be yourself. And the key to failure is to try to please everyone.

K – keep trying no matter how hard life may seem. When a person is motivated, eventually he sees a harsh life finally clearing out, paving the way to self-improvement.

L – Learn to love your self. Now isn’t that easy?

M – Make things happen. Motivation is when your dreams are put into work clothes.

N – Never lie, cheat, or steal. Always play a fair game.

O – Open your eyes. People should learn the horse attitude and horse sense. They see things in 2 ways – how they want things to be, and how they should be. 

P – Practice makes perfect. The practice must be about motivation. It lets us learn repertoire and ways on how can we recover from our mistakes.

Q – Quitters never win. And winners never quit. So, choose your fate – are you going to be a quitter? Or a winner?

R – Ready yourself. Motivation is also about preparation. 

We must hear the little voice within us telling us to get started before others will get on their feet and try to push us around. Remember, it wasn’t raining when Noah build the ark.

S – Stop procrastinating.

T – Take control of your life. Discipline or self-control jives synonymously with motivation. Both are key factors in self-improvement.

U – Understand others. If you know very well how to talk, you should also learn how to listen. Yearn to understand first, and to be understood the second.

V – Visualize it. Motivation without vision is like a boat on dry land.

W – Want it more than anything. Dreaming means believing. And to believe is something that is rooted out from the roots of motivation and self-improvement.

X – X-Factor is what will make you different from the others. When you are motivated, you tend to put on “extras” on your life like extra time for family, extra help at work, extra care for friends, and so on.

Y – You are unique. No one in this world looks acts or talks like you. Value your life and existence, because you’re just going to spend it once.

Z – Zero in on your dreams and go for it!!!

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Looking at the Entire Picture to Improve your Personal Life

To improve your personal life you have to consider the whole pie. You have to review your liability, behaviors, actions, emotional responses, and overall standard of living. Once you review the details, you will find it easier to move ahead and make the necessary changes. To get started begin with a checklist. 

How are your behaviors?

What are your behaviors? Do you engage in activities that lead toward negative consequences? Do you drink heavily? Do you drug? Do you smoke? Do you associate with the wrong crowd? 

Once you write down your behaviors that pull down consider the details. If you engage in activities that lead toward negative consequences, likely you are not looking at the whole pie. Rather you may act before you speak or do something. 

What you need to do is to consider consequences before you speak or act.

 If you drink heavily, perhaps you have an alcohol problem. 

There is nothing wrong with admitting you have a problem. You will need to seek help. There is nothing wrong with seeking help. If you have a drug problem, you will need to apply the same rules mentioned when handling alcoholism. If you smoke, you want to consider ways to stop. You will need willpower and the goal of quite. 

If you associate with the wrong crowd, you will need to evaluate your situation.

 What do these people bring to your table? Do they give or take from you? 

How do you handle problems?

Every day there is some kind of a problem that has to be thought out and decided what to do about the issue. What are some things that you can go to help? 

You should always think about the problem before you make a decision on the issue. You will make healthier decisions by looking at the entire picture. 

If the problem is too big for you to handle alone, ask for help. Talk with friends, family, or experts. 

How about paying bills: 

DO you pay bills on time? 

Paying bills is a major problem that leads to many hassles. If you pay your bills on time, however, you can reduce some of these hassles. Failing to pay bills only builds stress. 

You will need to set a budget that works within your means to pay your bills on time. Maybe you can get a better paying job, so you make more money.  

There might be some times that you are late but you should try to keep up as best as you can this will help take off some stress.

Do you visit your doctor regularly?

Keeping your doctor visits and exercising will help relieve stress. Visiting your doctor regularly will help you keep an eye on your health. Healthy people live a productive life. 

What actions do you take to improve your life?

As long as you think things out before you make a decision you will work to improve your personal life. You will also need to take steps to reduce stress, by avoiding harmful actions, such as smoking, drugs, or alcoholism. 

You can benefit by paying bills on time, visiting your doctor, exercise the mind and body daily and so on. 

If you have problems quitting on your own, remember help is available. 

You have many options, including inpatient services, outpatient services, group support, one-on-one services, and more. 

To learn more about these services go online.

 You will also find help at local government agencies in your area. 

To improve your life you can also volunteer to help someone. You can wrap a gift this year for a homeless or deprived child.

 Many things you can do to improve your personal life. 

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How to To Stop Crying, During a Divorce+How to Talk to Your Children

It's hard getting over a relationship, especially if you have promised to be with each forever, but divorce can sometimes be a blessing.

 It's okay to cry for a few days, but you have put yourself back together and move. Divorce is not the end of your life, it's just the end of a relationship. Although that makes seem so casual, you may have other things that you need to focus on, rather than your marriage.

 If you have children, this would be a great time to start focusing on them more. 

Go to the movies, go to the mall, just do things with your children so that you can focus on something worth your time. 

Thousands of people have gone through a divorce, so you're not the only one. Why should you cry anyway?

  It's not your fault that it didn't work, you two probably were just at two different places in life. It's not because of you personally.

 There are so many things that you need to focus on that you may become overwhelmed, but that's okay, it's a natural feeling. Instead of going in a depression, you need to focus on what's going on. You need to begin the process. 

The first process of separating may be therapy. You may want to go alone or you can go with your mate. 

Even though it may seem too late for therapy, it will help you two be great parents. If you can get over all the issues and all the angry and you can valid each other's feelings than you can have a great relationship after the marriage. 

You may want to go alone at first. 

This way you can get all of your feelings out and you can release some of the anger and some of the hurt. Therapy is a great starting place because you can find yourself again and you can identify things that will help you move on. 

There are a lot of questions that you may feel unanswered. Know that, this was an act of fate. It could be the result of his actions, your actions, or both. However, regardless you cannot think of yourself as the problem. Fate was the problem. There are certain aspects of the universe that pulls people together and then apart, much like a magnet. 

If you think about it in words of fate, you will find strength, and you will also find the courage to move on. This is just a chapter in the many books of your life.

 Don't worry because there will be love after divorce and there will be other exciting chapters of your life still to be read, so it's okay to let go. You never what you may find after this whole thing blows over. 

It may take weeks or months to come to the fact, but you take as much time as you need. To end the tears, to end the pain, you need to find other things that make you happy and just do it. If you find comfort in friends, be with them as much as possible.

 If you have children, it goes the same. 

If you would really like to stop the crying, you will get out of bed, brush your teeth, get dressed up, and go to dinner, with friends, or family, or even by yourself. Getting up and looking like a hundred bucks will begin the process of letting go.

Whenever you feel lonely or blue, reach out to someone that you love and support you and talk. Talking helps everything. Share your feelings, and whatever you do, do not isolate yourself. You should be with people who love you during this time of need.

If your child is young, you will want to talk to them about your divorce with your partner. You may want to leave the talk up to the parent that is closer to the child if they are in their teens or older.

 A child, at any age, will have an issue with their parents during a divorce. 

You will want to be careful about how you handle the situation because you never know what may happen and what the child might do to react to the divorce. To a small child, divorce is the hardest. Their entire world seems to collapse. 

They will become enraged and scared. They won't know what to expect until you talk to them, they will feel like they have just become an orphan. When it comes to a divorce with children involved, you will want to make it as quickly and do a lot of damage control. 

You will need to talk to them about how they feel and you can learn how to support your child through this. 

How to you tell your child that daddy/mommy is moving out?  You should talk about your break up and the divorce as soon as you know that it will go through. 

You will need to tell the child what is going to happen so they can expect everything and not be affected by surprise or shock. 

You need to make sure that they understand that your marriage did not fail because of them. You will want to tell your child that they are still loved and that nothing, other than sleeping arrangements will change. 

The kids need to know that they aren't losing a parent. If you find it hard to be together with your partner, then you may take your child aside and talk to them with another that loves them very dearly. You may want to ask the babysitter or someone whom they are close to so that they can receive support. 

You should also try to make the talk quick and easy. You will need to give your statement and a little definition of what means. 

Tell them how the divorce will affect their lives and you should be as honest as possible. You need to tell them why you are getting a divorce, explain the word divorce, and then tell them how it will affect their relationship with their parents.

 Make sure that you don't say anything bad about your partner. Just tell your kids that you feel that the two of you would be better apart. The kids are smart and may agree, but they will be angry and scared because they do not feel secure. 

Don't ever say anything about the divorce that is negative, even if you are on the phone in a different room. You never know how it will affect their lives.

You should not just tell your kids how you feel and about the divorce and then never talk about it again. You need to encourage them to ask questions for the next couple of months. Smaller children will find difficulty so you will want to make sure that feel safe and secure even if one of their parents moves out.

Some of the questions that you need to be prepared to answer are: 

What's a divorce, Why are you two getting a divorce, Do you still love them, and they may ask you to see the other parent. 

All of these questions need to be answered as soon as possible so that they can feel secure again. You may want to ask their teachers if they are acting up and for any tips or news that may suggest that the child is having a hard accepting the news.

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How to Improve Your Personal Life with Exercise and More+Divorce - How to rebuild your life, improve your body exercise

 Life can be difficult and full of worries, and when you’re not taking good care of yourself, things can become quite demanding. Without a proper diet and exercise, along with proper sleep, you could find yourself run down extremely fast. This caused unwanted stress and anxieties in our everyday living. A major part of improving your personal life revolves around elements that can keep you from going off the deep end.    

Get exercise with a proper diet 

Getting the right exercise for your body does not consist of trying out for a marathon. Nevertheless, if you want to stay in shape and maybe lose a few pounds, here’s the perfect way to start.  

Walk for 30 minutes twice a day with a backpack containing up to five books.  

Instead of having an extra alcoholic beverage, eliminate it, replacing it with water.  

Substitute daily one serving of starchy carbohydrate with two servings of green vegetables. Rather than skipping breakfast and lunch and overeating on snacks, try snacking consisting of five small meals daily. Make sure you incorporate that with fruits and vegetables.    

The key is to watch what you eat and drink. You are guaranteed to feeling better; giving yourself more energy that will allow you to tackle other tasks. Stress will be coped with much easier. Another way for stress is massage therapy.  

The Benefits of Massage Therapy

Massage therapy offers many benefits.  It helps to start your day relaxed, which is essential for balance. A simple practice would be starting at your head and scalp.  

What people fail to realize is that until they have a massage they do no know how much stress they are carrying. Once you have an awareness of where stress is lodged in your body, you’ll know exactly which pressure points to work. 

This is what massage therapy can do for you:

• Relief of muscle tension and stiffness
• Greater joint flexibility and range in motion
• Healthier and nourished skin
• Improved posture
• Faster healing from pulled muscles

Getting enough sleep 

It is a proven fact that when you do not get enough sleep, this can make you ill. There are even studies that says healing is done while we are sleeping, meaning deep sleep produces the bodies highest form of hormones.

 A constant sleep pattern is necessary for the immune system to function at its peak.  Have a regularly scheduled bedtime.  Avoid exercising within three hours before bedtime. If you have problems winding down, do something relaxing like watching television, taking a bath, or listening to soft music.  

It doesn’t take money to improve our lives or even watching or favorite talk shows. All it takes is a little discipline and action, and we’ll be well on our way to better our personal well-being as we age. 

Proper rest, exercise, and training your mind to think positive is a great way to improve your life. 

The best thing you can do is getting started now. 

Prolonging good health only sends you back to the same patterns. If you want to improve your personal life, you must take action and maintain that action for the course of your life. 

Something to keep in mind is that exercise alone has proven to relieve people suffering from asthma, diabetes, heart disease, etc.

 In fact, studies have shown that people who exercise live a longer, improved, and happier life.

 In fact, exercise has proven to relieve and even heal symptoms emerging from arthritis. If you have back pain, you will benefit from exercise since it will relieve your pain as well. 

To learn more, check out books at your library or visit the Internet, or of course...follow my blog for more great advice! 

Divorce - How to rebuild your life, improve your body exercise

When it comes to divorce, it can be very painful. It is one of the most challenging things that you may ever go through in life and it's even harder when you have children in the mix. Divorce can also be seen as an opportunity to start a new life. 

You can do everything all over again but hopefully, learn from your mistakes. 

There will be many things that you will have to overcome when it comes to the divorce process. You will want to move on and with some respect. 

If your husband or wife left you, it can be very difficult to deal with, so you may start to try to find comfort in unhealthy behaviors. 

You will want to avoid drinking, smoking, drugs, and overeating. Those who are seriously depressed with notice that they tend to eat more because they are overwhelmed with feelings. 

You don't want to do anything that will jeopardize your health. In fact, you should get hobbies to fill the time and maybe take away the feelings of emptiness.

 If you do things that make a good amount of focus like solving puzzles or exercising, not only will you keep your hands off the goodies, but you will also be able to stimulate your mind and body. 

When it comes to exercise, some people will start because they feel that their mate left because of their appearance. There is nothing wrong with your appearance. 

Some people just fall in love quickly and just as quickly out of love. You should never start exercising with the intention of bringing them back. 

This will not only hinder your weight loss when it doesn't work out but why would you want to go through all of that for someone else? 

 If you feel the need to lose weight and get healthy, then it should be because you want it for yourself.

Since this is a major way of dealing with your pain, you will want to have someone there for you all the way. You want someone to talk to about the divorce and someone who is willing to encourage you to get healthy. 

This person can be a close friend or family member. 

All you need from them is complete support. 

You may want to see if they would like to go to the gym with you so that you can have some competition. 

The competition will keep you going with pace and it will make you work out harder. This person will comfort you through the divorce and they will allow you to stand on your own.

When it comes to weight loss, you will notice that your entire life can change.

 You may begin to realize that you are a lot stronger then you give yourself credit for. 

If you are able to exercise and burn off all the pain and hurt that you are feeling, it won't take as much time to move on. If you can get your feelings out, you will find that you will be able to let go, move on, and build a new and wonderful life for yourself.

 Rebuilding is hard and it can be frustrating, but if you have someone near you to help you pull through then you are among the lucky ones.  

A divorce can take so much out of you, but if you do not allow it to get to you or bring yourself down, then you will be able to stand a much stronger and independent person. 

You will be able to find strength in yourself and it will be a great comfort when the divorce is final. Your marriage may be over, but you have just been given an opportunity to rebuild the perfect life for yourself.

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